Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Rural Canada - peaceful prairie
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Go Mom! Just believe in yourself (I know, I know. . . so many questions with your first, but there's lots of inner strength you can pull from other experiences).
My first was 9lb 14.25oz. I had had one 25mg shot of Demerol (normally prescribed in batches of 4 shots X 25mg as a "starter", I was told) 3 hours before she was born, when I had been in labour all day - painful active labour for 6.5 hours - and got completely disheartened to hear that I was only 1.5-2cm dialated. Totally useless - would never repeat! I also should have known to heed the non-linear progression of labour! (ie. I then went from 1.5-2cm to ready to pushing in the following 2.5 hours). Our daughter was born after 35 minutes pushing. I am certain this would have been a whole lot smoother and shorter if I had NOT been semi-reclined in bed with the nurses jamming my legs up a la stirrups and if I had NOT allowed valsalva pushing. I did have a tear with several stitches - just barely classified as second degree. The doctor must have thought it was a bit of a tough delivery as he joked, "Bet you don't want to do that again anytime soon!" I couldn't have disagreed more. As soon as she was out, I felt FANTASTIC, and had an overwhelming feeling of "Well, I could certainly do THAT again! Soon!"
My second was 9lb 1.5 oz. 20 minutes pushing.
My third was 11lb. 1oz. 0 minutes "pushing". We BARELY made it to the hospital and he just "came out" over 2 waves of contractions immediately as I stood up out of the wheelchair and attempted to hitch myself onto the birthing bed.
I agree with the others: try any position. I had horrible back labour with my first (well, all three) and although nurse mildly suggested at one point that I try changing position, when I leaned forward to sit at the edge of the bed it was so excrutiating that I just flopped back. Silly me! Should have continued that change in position right over to hands and knees, or leaning very deeply into my thighs with my back muscles stretched (a personal favourite for the worst part of labour - also works since we are usually still on our long drive to the hospital).
I know that although I read about using other positions and wrote in my birth plan that I'd like to use them, I certainly felt inhibited about this somehow in my first birth. Not strong enough to insist on them and the doc/nurses certainly didn't suggest anything different than their favourite "mom semi-reclined in bed" pose! I know that in my first birth, the whole squatting thing just didn't seem "right" to me FOR ME (obviously some "ladylike" hangups). I laugh at myself now to see how my visions of ideal birthing positons have changed! It's just a feeling that's grown within me. Good luck!
Six kids, sixth sense, six degrees of separation. . . from sanity!
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