Hoping for the same this time!
Of course there are also women who push for a very long time in undirected attended births or UC births and I think that can be normal too. Sometimes a long period of pushing is what it's going to take to get a baby into the world.
I think prolonged pushing is a problem is when a. it's initiated by someone other than the birthing woman or b. it is initiated by the birthing woman because she feels fearful or like she "needs" to push based on erroneous societal messages.
Otherwise every birth is different and "normal" is really a wide spectrum of different.
mom to 3 home-born children, wife to a great guy
I actively pushed for under a minute with my second. She was crowning as they were still prepping. I didn't really have a strong urge, just pressure. There wasn't much effort on my part. Two small pushes for her head and two more for her body. I was in a semi-reclined position, slightly on my left side. She was 8 lbs 9 oz.
Aeona - married to super hot nerd Toby . . . mama to Grace (10) Evangeline (8) Duncan 11.14.08 , Henry (5) born at home and Ruby, 11.27.14.
Emilee and Elaina and our newest addition Elliot Bell 9/15/10
#2-anterior, epidural, sitting up, 8lbs 10oz-the amount of time it takes to say FINALLY after you've been waiting half an hour for your doctor to get from the store to your hospital room. about 1 push and 1/10 of a push.
DS1 was not fat (big bones) and DS2 was FAT!!! It is a lot easier to push out a baby who is fat. a LOT easier.
Andrea , child of God, wife of Tim , mama of L, B, J, J, G
I'm on a healthy mission.
1) My midwife threatened to transfer me to the hospital to get pitocin. I later learned that this was a somewhat calculated move on her part, as she knew that I would not go willingly.
2) I think I had been holding back because of a deep conviction that it would be impossible to squeeze my baby out without ripping myself in half. I already felt stretched to the absolute max, but her head was only barely showing. It seemed like the physics of the situation just wouldn't allow her out while leaving me intact. But I wasn't going to go through all I had to in order to get my home birth and then end up transferring and getting an episiotomy or something. So I just decided to push her out no matter what. And I did, with only a very small tear.
Sarah, mother to Eloïse (5/2005), Lucas (3/2008) and Ilias (7/2011), and due with #4 (March 1, 2014)
I had 75 minutes of labour with dd and then had to puff off pushes as they prepped the OR because of an unqualified-to-catch-my-breech-baby OB. I'd've had her out in 3 pushes. (easy for me to say that now of course! LOL)
if there's a next time I think we have to be ready to UC.
Second I pushed for around 13 mins. I wasn't trying to push either (because the midwife wasn't there yet!) .. my body just did it.
So I started to feel like pushing about 25-30 minutes before my son was born, but didn't push seriously until the last 10 minutes or so.
But, I didn't figure out exactly what to do (had an epidural) until the very end. Then, it was only 3 contractions before he was out!
He was 8 lbs. 11 oz., 22", and HC was 14.5"
I didn't tear, thank goodness!
Mom to two amazing boys, C (July 2005) and D (May 2010)
Founder/leader of a Babywearing group, and loving it!
Second baby - MWs used passive descent, letting me rest while fully dialated. After about 2 1/2 hrs, I felt the urge to push, and forty min later, DS2 was born.
A study showed recently that for fully dialated moms, allowing the baby to descend on his own had no higher risk of bad outcomes than pushing the baby down the birth canal. Given that babies who go through passive descent are more rested, some studies have shown that there is a lower risk of emergency c-section and other complications with PD babes.
FWIW, she told me my hips were HUGE, and I think she was right, since I didn't feel a thing -- except those blasted contractions -- until dd was crowning. I'm sure the "huge" hips were a help when it came to getting dd out.
I feel for you girls with long push times. Some of your pushing was longer than my entire labor from the first conx (which I thought was from the cervadil..). (4 hours total... went from 2 cm to delivery in 1 hour!)