All three labors were pain med free and my second was an induction by Pitocin.I was more freaked out by being hooked up to one more thing than the pain of the contractions.
me, herding 5 critters a cat and a dog. DS 11/01, DS 10/04, DD 2/06, DS 5/07 and DD 9/10
You ladies are all very inspiring. I am planning on an unmedicated unassisted homebirth and I really feel like I can do it! Thank you!
I wish I had known that going into my first birth, because I had very strong back labor and thought that something must be wrong because surely labor wasn't supposed to hurt this much! (Although my wisdom tooth extraction was still totally worse.)
Just some ponderings on a rainy Wednesday morning.
Labor pain was different. As long as I was in laborland I was okay. When I came out of laborland to answer a question then labor hurt a lot more.
The worst pain of my life hands down.
Before that I thought the worst pain of my life was nerve damage done to my hip from being thrown by a bitchy mare : . I blacked out from the pain from the fall.
Childbirth was the worst pain of my life and I cannot wait to do it again !!!!
I read some of the responses on this thread to my dh--he asked over and over again, "are they kidding?" I think my pain made an impression on him as well. Poor guy.
I do think that our state of mind has a lot to do with how we labor. I was completely blown away by the intensity of my labor. I became one of "those" women that was loud and screaming and out of control, unable to get it back. I had attended lots and lots of births (was a L&D nurse, then a CNM), with lots and lots of variables, but I think I responded to my labor in the top 1% of how to react poorly and have a bad experience.
I definitely wont say that labor was a walk in the park. I was up for 2 days and had trouble sleeping the night before that because I couldn't sleep w/ the labor pains. That it came on so gradually though really helped me keep it in check. I "lost it" during what might have been transition, not because of the pain, but because having never felt birth before, the wierdness of feeling my hips shifting to allow the baby to move down was the wierdest and most unexpected feeling imaginable. We were doing ours as a UC and with nobody there to tell me that was how I was supposed to feel, I got really scared for a brief time. That fear made me loose control (not control persay but being able to "ride the contractions" and stay focused).
Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) , Emma (5/03) , Evan (7/05) , & Jenna (6/09)
Loving my amazing dh, James & forever missing Aaron Ambrose (11/07)
The contractions aren't the hard part for me, it's the actual birth.
I like to give birth on my knees on the floor, with my upper body resting on the bed. I remember my arms and legs trembling uncontrollably as the baby's head crowns. Oh, and that "ring of fire" feeling. Your body is taken over at that time, no matter where your head is. There is no turning back! And each time, the thought of my death crossed my mind. I wasn't really afraid, just overcome by the intensity. I probably felt more "pain" with an absessed tooth, but without the (insert word I'm looking for -- intensity + power).
And, on top of all that, I always looked forward to the act of giving birth! Go figure!
I'd say, yes, labor was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. I haven't broken any bones, but I have slammed my finger in a car door, and been stitched up "down there" after tearing slightly with a birth with no local anesthetic (nothing like feeling the metal hook going in and out of your girl parts right after giving birth while trying to hold your newborn and trying not to squeeze her too hard from the blinding pain of being stitched), and I've had killer menstrual cramps.
My labors START out like killer menstrual cramps and progressively get more and more painful (even through relaxation and having an amazing support system and being at home).
I think some women must have easier births than others (obviously) because I am in awe that some describe theirs as not painful.
That said, I'd give birth over and over again, just for the sheer magicalness (like that word? ) of it and the sweet newborn baby at the end.
haha Bethany I was getting ready to quote you- minus the stitches part...and just realized it was YOU!!
Crunchy, Christ-lovin' mama to dd13, ds8, dd6, dd5, ds3
My second labor was another story - I said at the time I was learning brand new definitions for the word "pain," so yes, I guess probably the worst, lol. Baby was posterior, labor was tougher from the get-go and giving me a way premature urge to bear down while I was at 8, cervix still posterior. So the midwife manually moved the cervix into an anterior position - first new pain definition I got, lol. Then my cervix became badly swollen from the uncontrollable bearing down, so I was about standing on my head trying to prevent to bearing down to see if we could bring the cervix back down. Second new definition for pain - trying desperately not to bear down when that's what your body is doing I find impossible to relax and do, and the whole thing agonizing. Add to that the horrible pain in my sacrum as I swore it was going to fly off when I could feel it lift during contractions and the pain never actually fading between. In the hospital after an epidural - epidural totally wore off after it slipped out of the correct spot - then I had the bearing-down, sacrum rearranging contractions at a high level of pitocin while stuck in a bed. Think I probably left teeth marks in the bed rail, but that part of labor is very much a wicked blur for me, heh When I got to the pushing, epidural was entirely worn off again, but laboring felt fine again then, and I was able to get up besides. It funny how even for one person pain in labor can be so different.
My second labor was classic, text book labor. I got breaks in between contractions!
I did yell during both labors towards the end...but I SCREAMED at the doctor when I had my knee drained.
On a scale of 1-10, ten being the worst imaginable pain, labour is about a 4. Birthing the head is about a 6.
Even when DD was crowing I said in a very normal, non-agitated voice, "okay, so that's why they call that the ring of fire". Much worse is say, breaking a pinky toe when you kick it on the sofa leg as you walk briskly through the living room! Or a migraine headache.