Allow me to formally introduce myself since I'm fairly new at posting on MDC. I have 4 children. First born in the hospital, the rest at home. 3 boys and one daughter. Married in '00 to a wonderful man. Hi
My last two children were very big babies. Ireland waterborn '04 at 10lbs 5oz and Liam 9.8 - 8 wks ago... I gave birth with no labor pains at all. The pushing part hurt but that was 2 minutes with Ireland and 4 minutes with Liam. Jaden - first to be born at home - really hurt, labor and all. Christian - hospital - epidural, 4th degree episiotomy, and forceps (You can see why I never want to step foot in a maternity ward ever again!).
Midwife, from TX, arrived at the last 20 minutes when Ireland making her grand debut. MW wanted to check me and in doing so she broke my waters. Every time my water breaks I start to feel really uncomfortable. I began to push almost immediately. After the first push she yelled, "STOP YOUR PUSHING YOUR UTERUS OUT!!!" I stopped, freaking out now (on all fours, if you can imagine). She pushed my cervix back over Ireland's head and told me to push. I said I didn't feel the urge to push. She suggested I get out of the water then. So I pushed a really really hard push. Ireland was lifeless. MW gave her one breath and my baby girl began to breath.
8 wks ago I felt tightenings in my belly and they had a consistent rhythm so I called MW. When she came over she checked me. I was 5 cm dilated. She called everyone to come over and went home real quick to get cleaned up then came back. The evening was quite strange. I felt like I was a hostess, in a way. Even a friend of mine was on the couch sharing peanuts with the others said, "This is like popcorn and we're watching a movie".
MW replied , "uh its not suppose to be like that". Thing is, My husband (what is it? DH or something - I don't know the codes) is a really funny guy and we, especially me, were laughing so dang hard. I'm surprised I didn't laugh the baby out of me. I suggested to MW that I wasn't really in labor so she checked me. I was a 7 and declared I was really in labor. I felt like everyone was expecting a baby right then. It was really late. Everyone went to sleep. MW slept next to me. I couldn't sleep. I think MW wanted to leave but was afraid she would miss the birth. At 6am I was so tired. I kept going to the bathroom trying to move things along my self. Kept getting in and out of the birth pool too. 8am she broke my waters, which I really didn't want done. I was hoping for a birth in the caul. At this time I was a 9cm. I allowed her to do it because I thought it would help things along. I went to the bed got on all fours so she could flip the lip of my cervix. Once she did that I had the urge to push. 4 minutes later, MW passed my baby to me through my legs. That part was way cool. Our eyes locked and we stared at each other for so long.
When time came to deliver the placenta. MW wiped away what she thought was a blood clot turns out to me my cervix. She told me to Kegal like crazy. Now that I think about it, I seem to remember the look on the apprentices face - she was very concerned. I went to a urogynecologist who said I have a stage 3 of 4 uterine prolapse. I went to another doctor for a second opinion and this time MW came with me. He had worse news to tell me. He suggested a hysterectomy. This is when I learned about the suspecting "blood clot" really being the cervix. I also have a cystocyle (4 of 4) bladder below the pelvis. And a 3 of 4 rectocyle. They both said my babies beat me up. Doc #2 mentioned that the forceps and episiotomy
started this whole fiasco. Then with each baby things got worse. I saw the doctors because I could see bulging (if you can imagine what I mean) and I felt the heavyness, ahem' down there.
Today I feel better as I've been doing like 300 kegels per day since then, as well as resting (really taking it easy) and researching like mad too. We want so much to have another daughter. It devastates me that at 29 a doctor is urging me to have a hysterectomy. He did say that if we wanted to have more children I would have to have a c-section.
I bawled like a baby for two straight days.
My question is, has anyone been there? Can anyone offer me help, advice, support? Anything will be greatly appreciated, thanks.