Like you need all of us asking if you've had that baby yet, ha ha.
I went 42 weeks 5 days with my ds. That being said, I think there are two issues here.
1. Are you really "overdue"? As people have mentioned here, it's an ESTIMATED due date. I took my last pill May 31 and had a positive pregnancy test/missed period July 4. That means I got pregnant mid-June. . .thus a March 7 due date.
However, my midwives, goddess bless them, moved my due date back to March 12 (once I hit 42 weeks) to keep me out of an induction. I had DS March 26. Their practice dictates that past 42 weeks you have to have an induction at the hospital with their OB which I was furious about. I ended up having membranes swept, trying massage and acupressure, walking, swimming, sex, spicy food, castor oil, castor oil on cervix, blue and black cohosh (taken w/midwife supervision) and nothing worked. I was scheduled for a 6am induction Tuesday a.m. and had my son Monday morning. Labor began on Sat. p.m. and stalled Sunday, picked up Monday morning. So I was looking at either having to check into the hospital or trying to find another provider (AAAAK!) or just labor at home and go to the ER. . .all scary options when you have people breathing down your neck.
2. Do babies really take 40 weeks to grow? Maybe, not all of them. Just like anything there is a bell curve or normality. Perhaps your baby is on the outer edge. I get what people are saying about the non-stress tests, creating an emergency where none exists. So you may want to avoid them. On the other hand, having them kept my family and friends off my back and made me feel more sane. Especially once we went past 42 weeks. Definitely only have once a week, maybe twice a week once you hit 42 wks. However, there is a statistical increase in complications after 42 weeks, that's why they bug you about that number, but it's not like there is an appreciable difference between 41 weeks 6 days and 42 weeks 1 day, so it's not hard and fast. I read somewhere that gestational length is related to maternal age (i.e. young and old mommas have shorter ones, peak gestational length is at 29yrs. . .my age having DS)
FYI, DS was born in a normal, healthy, natural birth in the birthing center with no complications--apgar of 9 and absolutely no signs of being post term. He had no peeling, great color, great chubby look--no weight loss. On the downside he was a whopping 9 lbs. . .midwives thought he put on a pound and a half in the last two weeks, so that was a bummer for me since I tore
Just knowing lots of other women here have gone "over" whatever that means should make you feel more normal. Remember we live in a culture where 38 weeks is "right on time" so it's natural that you're feeling worried, pressured, and all the comments from people probably aren't helping. "haven't you had that baby yet?!" "What's wrong with you/the baby?" "Is everything okay?"
My advice: turn off the phone, change your message (hi, it's me, no baby yet but we'll be sure to let you know as soon as he's here!), lock your doors, and go out for dinner.