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Last night I had a migraine and it was HORRIBLE. I've forgotten how terrible they can be. I was thinking that it was definitely worse than giving birth.

Also, going to the dentist can be worse for me. I always have to get sub-gum cleaning and that HURTS. A lot.

Can anyone else think of any pains worse than their experience giving birth?
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i guess it depend on how pleasant or *not* pleasant your birth was. i can honestly say that i have never been through anything as painful as child birth, and that includes my experiences with migraines, dental procedures, broken bones, and anything else i can think of. i'm know there are more painful things, but i've (mercifully) never had to go through them.
my birth probably wasn't typical, though, especially around here. i ended up with a fourth degree tear...i'm sure that had a lot to do with my negative experience.
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Healing from childbirth
and
nursing through breast infections :
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the pain in my shoulders after a laparoscopy. eeeeek! (doesn't help that I can't take narcotic pain relief)

Actually, I got e coli a couple months after my youngest was born (homebirth, no meds of any sort, screamed help the whole way through) and it was definitely worse.

I guess for ME a migraine is worse because there's no definite end in sight, nothing good at the end of it. all the suffering for nothing.
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Nothing for me has hurt more than childbirth.
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A toothache in my wisdom tooth hurt a lot more than giving birth.

Also, getting stitches for tearing hurt more than the birth process. I shudder just thinking about it.

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Kidney stones.
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Passing gallstones! I had a serious problem with gallstones (ended up having my gall bladder and bile duct removed because the bile duct was blocked with over 100 stones). We were uninsured at the time so I didn't see a doctor until I had bile backing up in my body.

Anyway....I always knew after going through that for months that I could easily handle a day or two of labor.

Sure enough, when I had DD three years ago it hurt a LOT less than passing the stones did.
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the IV! dislocated knee.
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Just thought of something else... peeing after giving birth. That was unholy.
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Healing from childbirth
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I AGREE!!!!

I also had to get a tube shoved up my nose when I was little for a medical procedure and frm what I remember that was ALOT worse...BUT it could have been just alot more trumatic!

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Wisdom tooth extraction.

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Healing from childbirth
especially after an episiotomy...ugh...horrible

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Well, my SIL just had a horrible bout with a kidney stone...she said wayyyy worse than birth.
I smashed my finger when a canister full of 5 lbs of flour fell on it. That hurt worse than childbirth. (Always ice injuries like this! I would have saved myself a lot of pain!)

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Gall bladder attacks....a partial root canal with no meds....getting hit head on by a suburban when you are each going 50 mph.

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Just thought of something else... peeing after giving birth. That was unholy.
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Noooooooooo! I had buried that somewhere in my mind!

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Being on fire.
Going through reconstrutive surgeries after being on fire.

*Not my experiences - a loved one's. But, as much as my second labor and delivery hurt (excruciating - thought my insides were being shredded), I know my pain wasn't the worst pain in the world.

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Can anyone else think of any pains worse than their experience giving birth?
No.

But passing a gallstone (this is what we think it was), migraines, and an abscessed tooth come the closest.

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Nothing for me has hurt more than childbirth.
Yup.
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the spinal headache that results after an epidural....:

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A bad earache, A bad toothache. I think it has a lot to do with the "no end in sight, suffering for nothing" theory. Because when you are in labor, it may hurt but, Your having a BABY!! You will get a sweet newborn at the end.

On the other hand, if you have an abcessed tooth that won't let up and pain medicine does not help, that just sucks. I'd take having a baby over that anyday.

I also agree that it does depend on your birth experiance as well.

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throwing my back out, slipped disc, sciatica pain.
Anything back related is excrutiatingly more painful than childbirth.

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Right after my second child was born, I started having gall bladder attacks. THAT hurt worse than childbirth.

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dry sockets after wisdom teeth extraction.

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For me, shattering my wrist. I broke and dislocated both radius and ulna at the wrist with an open dislocation on the one side. I had rods, pins and screws in it. The pain was indescribable and frequently was so bad that it would cause me to shake uncontrollably. It was much worse than the 25 hours of unmedicated labor and 3rd degree tear that I had 3 weeks later.

I didn't realize until it happened that anything could be worse than the long OP labor I had with my 1st child. The only thing that I have experienced that came close was the inadequate pain control with the c/s with my 1st child.
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I'm kinda...well shocked to see this. I loved childbirth and it was hard, and somewhat painful during certain moments but I've experienced so much that was more painful.

fractured tailbone
migraines
twisted/fractured ankle
the headgear I wore for 9months
migraines
sinus infection
ear infection
sciatica
altitude sickness
the flu
GERD
cramps and diarrhea from taking Castor Oil
sinus headaches
"charlie horse"
Carpal Tunnel syndrome
toothache
having a cavity filled
Symphysis pubis dysfunction
and emotional pain like loosing friends and relatives, pets, watching people suffer etc.

Childbirth was a sweaty joy at every moment. I have very long back labors and even one baby that was completely crooked (she had a very large cephlahematoma for many weeks, looked like a dorsal fin ) and I loved every second of it.

do most people just not challenge their bodies, or endure any other kind of pain in today's society and therefotre childbirth *is* really the hardest thing they have (or maybe will) ever do? I'm struggling to understand because if what I've read here is normal then I may be doing a disservice in my childbirth classes by my opinion that it's work but not terrible or suffering kind of pain.

To me it was one of many challenging events that I have accomplished. I actually draw on my memories quite a bit when I am training for other physical events. It's not too hard to get that last rep or mile out if you can remind yourself about what you accomplished already. It's all just life to me. and life in hard.

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bashing my knee against the wall
throwing up
bladder surgery

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My first child was work. It was painful - more painful than the tattoo on my ankle - but it was work. Afterwards, I felt a sense of accomplishment over what I was capable of. He was 9lbs 9oz, and got stuck (shoulder dystocia), but only took a few minutes to get out.

My second child was pain. Excruciating pain. Unbelievable pain. All of it - pain. My insides shredding kind of pain. Dying every second kind of pain. He was 10lbs 8oz. He also got stuck - another shoulder dystocia. Much worse. It took a lot to get him out, and then he needed oxygen for an hour. I have PTSD from that birth experience. It was awful. Truly horrible. Not anything close to the dream homebirth I had worked for. He was really too big for my body, and it's amazing that he survived. My body may never be okay after that experience, though.
I planned on being a childbirth educator. I was going to do so many great things to help women feel strong and capable of natural childbirth.
Not anymore. I can't even consider it anymore. I've lost the joy that I once had when thinking and talking about natural childbirth. It's gone.
Birth can be empowering. Birth can also be psychologically damaging. Natural birth can be both. My eyes have been opened to that, quite unfortunately.

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do most people just not challenge their bodies, or endure any other kind of pain in today's society and therefotre childbirth *is* really the hardest thing they have (or maybe will) ever do?
Seriously???

I find this so insulting. Because childbirth was painful I must be a lazy, indulged member of society? I don't do "reps" at the gym. However, I run 30 miles a week, take 50+ mile bike rides and practice yoga. Gimma a break. :

And yes, you probably are doing a disservce in your childbirth classes. For my first pregnancy I was convinced that my homebirth was going to be a blissed-out cosmic experience. Well, it wasn't. And it took me a long time to emotionally recover because I thought I was a failure.
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Seriously???

I find this so insulting. Because childbirth was painful I must be a lazy, indulged member of society? I don't do "reps" at the gym. However, I run 30 miles a week, take 50+ mile bike rides and practice yoga. Gimma a break. :

And yes, you probably are doing a disservce in your childbirth classes. For my first pregnancy I was convinced that my homebirth was going to be a blissed-out cosmic experience. Well, it wasn't. And it took me a long time to emotionally recover because I thought I was a failure.
My labor was terrible and I wanted to die during a lot of it! Some labors are worse than others, and when there are complications and stuff it makes things worse. I do agree though that in society fear pain. We tend over medicate for physical and emotional pain. There are definite needs for medication, but I think the pp's point was that we are taught to fear pain more than handle pain, and that makes it worse, not that we are weak if we have pain.
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