What I would want in a breech OB would be someone who'd sit on his hands and leave me alone. No touching the baby, no medications for me, no controlling my positions or putting me on a time table.
Don't be afraid of the birth! Mine was really pretty easy, as births go. Not pain-free; it hurt and was certainly hard work, but I've felt that bad before, it wasn't the worst pain of my life or anything. I don't know if the breech position made things any harder because that's my only birth so far, but I was very happy with things the way they were.
I do have one piece of advice. I had read that some breech moms never get the urge to push, so when I asked the midwife to check me and I was nearly complete, I started pushing shortly afterward without waiting for the urge, just because I was tired of labor. First, I wouldn't allow any vaginal exams next time - they don't provide any really useful information, since dilation can change in seconds. They increase your infection risk, can be really disheartening, and can lead to things like what happened to me - I pushed for 3.5-4 hours. It wasn't a problem, but maybe I wouldn't have had to push so long if I had waited. So, I recommend waiting a good while, to see if your body starts pushing.
While doing your research online, watch out for the Term Breech Trial (I think that was its name). It's unscientific and poorly done, and has been pretty much discredited, from what I understand. Keep researching! I spent LOTS of time checking over all the facts I could find, and I feel confident that vaginal birth is best for the baby. There's no debate that it's the least risky option for YOU, of course - and another thing to consider is your future children, if you want to have any more. A c/s increases your risk in future pregnancies of miscarriage, placental abruption, etc. - plus many doctors will give you this same trouble if you want a VBAC.
Dealing with the what-ifs was the hardest part for me, especially when my family started worrying. I felt like everyone would blame me if something went wrong. But I KNEW I was doing the right thing, even though it was the hard thing. Plus, my midwife was Ina May Gaskin, and I had her statistics on the births she'd attended. Her statistics for breech birth were very reassuring - as I recall, the breech ones were better than the average I could find for hospital care in the US (all babies, not just breech).
The OB who did my ECV said he used to attend breech births all the time (he was older). They used to be just a variation of normal. He said he only stopped because of insurance rules at his hospital and the fear of lawsuits, NOT because he thought breech births were risky.
And just to add some more breech anecdotes - it runs in my family. My mom, her sister, my MIL, and her brother, were all breech. My husband was, too, and he was the only c-section. He was also the only one with a complication, since they cut his bottom during the surgery. He still has a scar.
You can do it! The waiting is the hardest part, but stay strong!
P.S. Here are my breech links. I haven't looked at them in a while, but hopefully they'll be helpful for you.http://gentlebirth.org/archives/breech.html#Approacheshttp://www.breechbabies.com/turning.htmhttp://www.radmid.demon.co.uk/breech.htm
(I have more, but the seem to be down right now.)