In my first labor the doctor told me to stop making noise when pushing because it would be counterproductive. I knew she was full of it but I made a strangled-sounding attempt to stop vocalizing.
Dd#2 was a hb. No attempt to halt vocalization and no one shouting at me to PUSH either. It was much easier.
Does screaming at the television during "A Baby Story" and other televised births count?
My doctor kept telling me to keep in it and use the energy I would used to scream, to push or focus. It must have worked because I only push for about 10 mins.
Anyway, for me:
I screamed a lot (high-pitched) during the 45 minutes of pushing with my first. It was not nice.
Then I read "Birthing from Within". Using long, low vocalizations totally worked for me in keeping myself calm, relaxed, "floating on the tide" of the transactions, etc. This worked A-1 for me in my following 3 deliveries. In each of them, I had a loud, throaty involuntary yell right as the baby was emerging. It was just intense.
Not sure that I'm crunchy, but definitely a "tough chew".
I will SO not be holding back this time! Grunting and moaning helped me pushed right!!
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With DD2 I didn't make a peep until her head and body came through and I screeched once. But hers was a much gentler birth.
I vocalized (more like moans and groans) during all four deliveries. I screamed when they used forceps on me (no meds) with DS1. I never realized they actually put them inside of you, with the baby's head....I don't know what I was thinking! That hurt way more than the contractions.
honeydee, that's amazing that the OB told you that. When I was pushing out #4, my midwive told me to be louder, because if she could not hear me, I wasn't pushing effectively! I wasn't consciously trying to be quiet, but she actually reminded me several times to be louder!
I attended a doula workshop 3 years ago and our instructor told us that for her second birth in a hospital she wanted things quiet and she vocalized because she felt that it made getting through the contractions easier and the nurse kept coming in and telling her that she "should really get an epidural so she would be quiet already!"
During the part of pushing when I was in the car on the way to the birth center (at the time I didn't even know was pushing), I sang. It wasn't a conscious thing, but it was like this song just came from somewhere somehow. I know that sounds horribly corny like something from one of Ina May's books or something but I swear it's true! :LOL
A, wife to R, mom to 3 boys and welcoming a baby girl in May 2015
And like PPs, my doula and MW encouraged me to keep my vocalizing low (not quiet).
I ... felt an urge to push like I never had before, there was no way I could not push! and I don't think I could have stopped pushing or screaming if you had offered me a million dollars.
The first 15 or so hours of labor it were very sexy sounding as I moaned my husband's name on every contraction...."Oh Leo....oh, oh, ohhhh Leeeoooooo."
Transition: I was moaning/growling/roaring my ass off.
And during the 40 minutes of pushing I was pretty much screaming during contractions and then asking/begging how much longer did I have to go through this in between.
My midwife was trying to get me to relax and breathe, but let me tell you, like Teensy said there was no "NOT" pushing. Telling me to breathe instead of push was like telling me to stop a speeding train with my bare hands. I finally pushed dd out in one big push, unfortunately I tore in 4 places so will try to do things differently this time around!
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It was more like a very low, guttural "buhhh-buhhh" sound. At the point of pushing, I could not scream even if I had wanted to. Too exhausted and too much in pain. :P