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From Hello Magazine.

"I didn't want any surprises. Honestly, I didn't want any [vaginal] tearing. I had heard horror stories of women going in and having to have an emergency C-section [anyway]. The hardest part was deciding on his birthday. I wanted to leave it up to fate, but at the same time I was ready to be done early!"

- Christina Aguilera, on giving birth to baby Max

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Five years ago I would have been horrified and said all kinds of nasty things about her. I was super natural and super crunchy about birth then. But I had a REALLY traumatic birth with my 4 yr old and I would have preferred a planned c-section over that, and even now, the idea is tempting. After what I've been through, I just can't judge.
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I posted this on the Birth Professionals forum.

I just can't believe a doc would say, "Oh, you don't want to tear? No prob. Let's schedule major abdominal surgery instead." The hell?!?!?! Is that going to become another medical reason for a c-s -- tearing phobia????
I have had 2 c/s and just had a VBA2C and had a second degree tear (ouch). I'd do the vaginal w/the tear before the c/s again in a heart beat!
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Five years ago I would have been horrified and said all kinds of nasty things about her. I was super natural and super crunchy about birth then. But I had a REALLY traumatic birth with my 4 yr old and I would have preferred a planned c-section over that, and even now, the idea is tempting. After what I've been through, I just can't judge.
i love humbling experiences. i could have written your post. mama, i had a vbac and it was cool! whatever you decide, you have to do what's best for you. i will admit that a planned c is much better than an emergency c, but i still wouldn't want to plan one "just in case" for me.
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when i read that she was "ready to be done early", i interpret that as she was "trying to avoid stretchmarks". i truly think that's why a lot of women in hollywood have scheduled c's.
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Hmmm.

Tear (or even episiotomoy): 1/2 inch scar that is usually not even visible to the naked eye...

Cesarean scar: 4 inch scar that never goes away...

Guess she really doesn't THINK, does she?

Probably had the c/tuck anyway. And an earlier c/section to avoid the last-three-week expansion, which is when most stretch marks happen, right?

I want to get superstar famous so people can ask me about MY awesome homebirth experience!!!

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Well according to the ACOG we shouldn't base our birth decisions on fads from famous people. And while I frequently don't agree with the ACOG, I think I'll be "good" and take their advice this time.
Great post!
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I would have thought she would have had the vaginal delivery
and Nicole Richie would have opted for the c section.
Well at least they are both breast feeding.

Are they really both breastfeeding?? That's great news! The past year or two have been great for hearing about celebs happily breastfeeding.
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And she didnt even wait until 40 weeks, but only 37.
She said it was a no brainer and her hardest decision was choosing his birthday!
Its just so crazy to me, on so many levels. OF all the things to consider about labor and birth.

Well she is breastfeeding at least.

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Five years ago I would have been horrified and said all kinds of nasty things about her. I was super natural and super crunchy about birth then. But I had a REALLY traumatic birth with my 4 yr old and I would have preferred a planned c-section over that, and even now, the idea is tempting. After what I've been through, I just can't judge.
yes but you are speaking from experience and valid emotional trauma. she is speaking from ignorance.

meh. I just don't care what people do with their own bodies, if they prefer abdominal surgery to a normal birth, whatever- I just feel a little bad for the baby with the increased risks of being premature, having respiratory problems, etc.

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And she didnt even wait until 40 weeks, but only 37.
Well, that's considered "term" now, don'cha know.
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You know, I don't think she is a bad mother for making the decisions she did. She has her reason, and whether we agree with her or not I don't believe we should bash her personally. Maybe its not the same decision any of us would make, but it's her choice, her body, her baby. And csections and circumcision for religious reasons are not the makings for a bad mother.

I was happy to read that she is breastfeeding.
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She didn't want any tears in her vagina, but she happily ripped off her son's foreskin.

Nice.
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Are they her choices to make? Yes.
Do those choices make her a bad mother? No.
Does that mean the choices are good or even "ok" choices? No.

At Mothering, we are in favor of genital integrity for all humans, and the safest, healthiest birth possible for all mamababies (which is, sometimes, a cesarean surgery birth, but more often is unhindered, natural, normal birth). People who make other choices are not "bad", but those choices may be.
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Celebs also have c-secs so they don't get as many stretch marks either. Noticed how she had to "decide" when his birthday was. Sigh.

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Well, that's considered "term" now, don'cha know.
and this is a whole other topic. : i went to 44 weeks.
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Are they her choices to make? Yes.
Do those choices make her a bad mother? No.
Does that mean the choices are good or even "ok" choices? No.

At Mothering, we are in favor of genital integrity for all humans, and the safest, healthiest birth possible for all mamababies (which is, sometimes, a cesarean surgery birth, but more often is unhindered, natural, normal birth). People who make other choices are not "bad", but those choices may be.
well said. she has to live w/the c/s trauma and scars. she's not forcing anyone else to have a c/s. yes, i know she is a voice out there saying a c/s is ok, great, whatever, but it is up to all of us to educate ourselves and make our own decisions.
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Are they her choices to make? Yes.
Do those choices make her a bad mother? No.
Does that mean the choices are good or even "ok" choices? No.

At Mothering, we are in favor of genital integrity for all humans, and the safest, healthiest birth possible for all mamababies (which is, sometimes, a cesarean surgery birth, but more often is unhindered, natural, normal birth). People who make other choices are not "bad", but those choices may be.
I agree. I just hate that young girls have so much exposure to this type of thinking, and very little exposure to normal/natural birth
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She didn't want any tears in her vagina, but she happily ripped off her son's foreskin.

Nice.
This totally sums up the irony of the situation.

The baby will probably mostly be raised by a nanny anyway and hopefully the nanny has a lot better of a mothering instinct than his actual mother.
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Wow. Just wow. How much you want to bet that she is more worried about being less tight down there then getting a tear during birth. And penis balloons at the circ. That is just sick.
This is exactly what I thought too. Penis balloons??
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This totally sums up the irony of the situation.

The baby will probably mostly be raised by a nanny anyway and hopefully the nanny has a lot better of a mothering instinct than his actual mother.
Umm.... was this really necessary? Like Arwyan said her decision does not make her a bad mother.

Also... not all women who have c/s have "c/s trauma". Also not all women who have c/s have enormous pain 6 days post partum as a PP said. I went home on advil, not in all that much pain. My foot surgery was worse than my c/s.

Having had a medically scheduled premature c/s.... People chosing to have early babies makes me I wanted to have a vaginal birth and could not, and will not be having one. Having to have one and choosing to have one are very separate things in my mind.
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This totally sums up the irony of the situation.

The baby will probably mostly be raised by a nanny anyway and hopefully the nanny has a lot better of a mothering instinct than his actual mother.
ouch! come on now!
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I posted this on the Birth Professionals forum.

I just can't believe a doc would say, "Oh, you don't want to tear? No prob. Let's schedule major abdominal surgery instead." The hell?!?!?! Is that going to become another medical reason for a c-s -- tearing phobia????

No, they would probably say "It's ok-we can make a big ol cut from your butt to your vagina called an episiotomy."

Seriously though, I think if you have enough money people will tell you whatever you want to hear.
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