Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) , Emma (5/03) , Evan (7/05) , & Jenna (6/09)
Loving my amazing dh, James & forever missing Aaron Ambrose (11/07)
... For me it was surrounded by nurses I trusted and my OB whom I trust and rely on. I am just so thankful I was in a hospital when I gave birth looking back on my situation though.
For me, and many others here at MDC, home is where the heart is and where my babies were born, all four. I had complications with the first two that I know would have ended up as caesareans in the hospital. Why would I put myself at that risk, risking infection, scar tissue, anesthesia complications, hemmorhage, breastfeeding problems, and a protracted recovery postpartum period with the hospital routine, instead of having my own babies at home and saving the hospital confinement for those who need it?
I do not believe I needed the hospital and I made the right decision to stay home. I chose the best attendants for me, educated myself, and prepared my mind for the labor to come.
It worked out for me. One cannot argue with success.
I know that feeling of "geez, I'm glad I was at hospital.". Third degree tears. Heaps of bleeding.
I arrived at hospital at 8cm. Had a great non-interventioned, natural, drug free, upright birth. But at that last moment, was so glad I had a surgeon stitching me up there and then.
I totally support homebirth though.
I think that the very rare chance of something going wrong at home can be preferrable to the very great chance of something going wrong at the hospital.
From little things, big things grow
Also, we have almost no touchstone in our society right now for women to become familiar with the natural process. Just look at the boards - ?'s about bleeding, cramping, baby's position, and just plain old fear that "I can't do this" or "Is this normal?". We come to the boards and run to the hcp b/c we can't go across the street and ask another mama or we've never seen a natural birth or, maybe, we've never even been around a newborn.
As far as I am concerned this story is an argument FOR homebirth rather than against.
I am sorry that you had a scary and life threatening experience but thank God you had a good midwife who saw the signs that your pain was an indication to trasfer.
I second the statement about being too chicken to give birth in a hospital! (and I see it all the time-all of my doula clients give birth in hospitals)
An important premise of homebirth, whether attended or unassisted, is that a woman will intuitively listen to her body and answer the cues that she hears and respond appropriately.
What happened with OP is exactly what should have happened during a homebirth with complications. Your body told you that something wasn't right, and you responded appropriately! That's how it's supposed to work, and it did!
I hope you find healing in your situation.
DS1: 10/89 - DD1: 06/94 - DD2: 02/97 - DS2: 12/05 - DS3: 12/08 - DC6: ETA 04/26/12
I'll be 42 when the newest little one is born! Yowza!