My brother and I were born by twilight sleep. Not sure about my sister. Before I knew about twilight sleep, there was a distinct absence about my birth story, and I always found it odd that others parents talked about the birth of their children, but my parents didn't.
After watching the Ricki Lake "Birth" tonight, I wondered if my mother was one of those women who was mistreated or physically abused while givingn birth to me, or even straped to the table and left for hours. I know it seems strange that I would have no memory about my birth, since I was an infant, but I think I lacked any connection to my birth at all.
As an adult, the question I beg an answer for is:
How did this affect me as a newborn, and does it still continue to affect me today?
Proud wife to my handsome husband Malachi David (2010) and Jeremiah Daniel (2012) joined our family via two lovely homebirths...planning another homebirth for the new belly baby, due April 16, 2015! Doula for 8 years and apprentice midwife for almost 3!
As far as the "how did it affect you?" question -- I'm guessing it really didn't. My brother and I are both "pretty jolly clever," we were healthy babies and are healthy adults, and our mom (and dad) loved us. I'm sure there's a percentage of babies who were adversely affected by that kind of anesthesia -- too groggy to eat or such -- but we weren't in that percentage.
Wife to an amazing man , mommy to 3 wild dudes: ds1 (5/23/05 @ 30 weeks), ds2 (3/5/09) , and ds3 (9/26/10) . Part time librarian, full time mommy, occasional chef and maid.
My GMIL, whom we lived with for several months, had 2 out of 3 of her children with TS. She said that with one of them (the second one) she woke up to nurses screaming and pushing on her stomach and then passed back out. She tore with him, the scar is well down onto her LEG. He was 10lbs and some change born at 43-44 weeks. She says she would prefer getting knocked out again to a regular birth in the hospital, which she had with her 3rd.
I can't honestly compare her 3 kids even though I know them pretty well... they all have health issues, although they were all FF'd as well from the get-go.
Sorry I'm not much help!
Sunny : gun toting, retired breastfeeding, car seat loving, guitar playing, home birthing and schooling mama to Jakob (10.06), Mikah (07.08) and Korah (07.11).
my brothers on the other hand, born in the late 60's (1966, 1968), I'm pretty sure were born while our mother was under twilight sleep. I know that one brother was a high forceps delivery.. not sure about the other one. She doesn't really like to talk about it much, so I don't know exactly what happened, hell, she probably doesn't even know exactly what happened
My mom is very withdrawn/reserved by nature so I doubt that our relationship would have been any different if she didn't use meds.
My grandmother had all her children naturally in Mexico.
they are placed there for the amusement of those who like to point them out.
When I pg, I grilled her about her births & she is very detached from them. She talks about going into the hospitals on her due dates and then the doctors taking care of the rest... For some reason this is okay with her.
I don't think our bonding was affected. She is a very loving & affectionate person and just loves babies.
On the other hand, my sister and I were both born naturally in a hospital, me in 1977 and my sister in 1981. My mom told me that the doctor wanted to use forceps to pull me out, but she said, "Only if you can promise me that it won't mis-shape the baby's head at all or leave any marks." Of course, he couldn't make that promise so I just came out on my own. Thanks, Mom! (It helped that my mom is a nurse and had been present at many deliveries, so she knew that there could be a problem with forceps.)
For my sister's birth, my mom told me that the doctor put some type of numbing cream on her cervix. She said that it kept her from feeling as much pressure as at my birth and was very helpful. I have never heard anyone else mention this cream. Has anyone here heard of it?
I'm pretty certain that my grandmothers had twilight sleep births. I'd have to ask...it's weird that during all the birth conversations that came up with my grandmothers around they didn't have much in the way of details or anything general to offer about their own experiences, which I think could be telling.
She then had 3 other natural births.
From reading some of these stories it seems that a lot of young moms (16-18) had the worst treatment....seems to go in with the stuff I've read of young mothers being punished and being treated horribly because they were young, possibly unmarried, and giving birth.
Happy to be a mommy and teacher to D , born 1-17-06 via and A , born 10-6-08 with a