Amy are we married to the same man? :LOL
No seriously this was just how my Dh was during my pregnancy. He misunderstood what the midwives were going to be around for (ended up with a hospital birth due to pre-eclampsia, but we were planning a homebirth), thought I was over doing it with midwives AND a doula, blah blah blah. He was supportive, just how much $ it all was made him nervous.
Anyways, I never got him to read a book, or even sections of one, no matter how much I tried. I would share little snippits of things like "oh our baby is this big now, and his organs are doing this" ect, and he was only halfway interested. Sorta "that's nice honey"...
He went with me to my first prenatal and ultrasound, and that was it. I was looking at the plastic diagram of the centimeters and going 'woooh that's big', and he said "Oh 5 centimeters? Yeah that is big!" He didn't even *know* you dialated to 10!
Anyways, what worked was MAKING him go to child birth classes with me. They taught the basics, and positions of support, and such, and while he complained about going I could really see the teaching pay off during labor. If I hadn't been so hooked up to things and been able to use more of the positions they taught it would have been even better.
So perhaps drag him to a class? Maybe go to a one day intensive if he really doesn't want to go to a 6 week one?
Oh yes, my Dh is totally madly in love with ds. Beyond what I expected. The first thing he wants when he walks in the door is to hold the little guy.
Tell him he loves him all the time. Kisses and snuggles with him... its too precious. So don't worry about that part