Any tips for him that would make him a little more photo-friendly?
Would you be offended? (I mean, I can totally see where he's coming from... it was a pretty bad smell... )
Do you think the smell would be masked at all if I birthed in the tub? I'd probably drain it shortly after and then do an herbal bath after placenta delivered (which he's also kinda scared about... I mean, watching it come out. He said he'd be happy to chop it up for dinner, but didn't want to watch it come out odd).
Anyway, thoughts? And if you dry-land-birthed, did you, your SO, or anyone ever notice the smell?
Sunny : gun toting, retired breastfeeding, car seat loving, guitar playing, home birthing and schooling mama to Jakob (10.06), Mikah (07.08) and Korah (07.11).
But i kinda like the birth smell in a weird way
Midwifery Student and Mama to 2 daughters and 3 sons.
I have given birth a variety of ways and I am thankful for what each one has taught me.
Anyway! I'm learning so many new things on this site! Why doesn't he put cotton wool or something up his nose? Might be more photogenic!!
That said...yes, a water birth would dilute the smell. SOme of it would still be coming from your pores that were above the water. I think it's probably pheremones in your sweat...but there would be fewer of them floating around!
Then, too...he COULD hold a piece of gauze or cotton with an essential oil near his face if he got squeamish...but--my husband is VERY squeamish about smells--I would probably tell him to just mouth breathe and get over it. Not that you shouldn't have "consideration" for him...but it is only a short time, and he'll probably be just FINE.
Mama to two awesome kids. Wife to a wonderful, attached, loving husband. I love my job-- I'm a Midwife, Doula and Childbirth Educator, Classes forming now!
And as a PP mentioned, I think it is some kind of pheromone or something.
Also if you have BV or any other vaginal infections, it could smell fishy.
And if the woman hasn't washed up or has been laboring for a long time, it could very well smell like sweaty crotch.
Not trying to offend anyone, but this is my experience as a sister, doula and nurse.
Of course, I didn't smell anything like that at my son's birth. I was pretty busy with other things.
There's no where you can be that isn't where you were meant to be, its easy
when I worked as a Rn and had to help in ortho surgery the smell of sawing bone and carterizing skin (burning flesh) bothered me alot.... I would put lemon juice in my mask or an essential oil under my nose (lemon, tangerine or bergamot). Lavendar might work too, for example. Citrus would probably hide the birth smell better though.
There's a smell? :
what is it...like.......a yani smell? I'm confused??
Everything that comes out of the body has some sort of scent. as does amniotic fluid, sweat (which can change with homones and such), meconium if that is present, and any other fluids that come with a baby.
Birth does have a distinct smell. I havnt found it to be a bad one. I imagine that some people could be real sensitive to it though.
and it does seem that water birth could help with this. as long as it is drained shortly after.
what is it with men anyway, LOL. they act all tough, really, a placenta can bring them to thier knees LOL!
If your dh doesn't like the smell I agree with pp- he should just rub some vick vaporub or some essential oils above his lips, I don't think a mask would really block that scent completely.
Jen Mama of 2 precious boys (9) (6) and still in with my Matt after 12 years together.
Domestic Violence Children's Advocate and Counselor
I didn't notice a smell at all during ds1's birth/labor, but with ds2 I noticed my sweat started smelling very different than usual towards the end of labor. I asked dp if he noticed it and he said definately yes, he said it actually made him...well...feel like he was in a frenzy and wanted me really bad.
|My dh commented on the smell, but he just said it was interesting and different. He didn't think it was bad.|
I had my parents and his parents in the birthing room about an hour after the delivery ....... even if there wasn't a specific "birth" smell, there were a whole lot of bloody cloths in that room. The thought crossed my mind that my guests probably noticed at least a tinge of odor. Probably a whole lot more than a tinge. But of course they didn't say anything.
To the OP: I wouldn't worry about photo-friendliness, just record the real experience you all are having, it'll be fine. Later you can laugh about it as a family.
I have smelled one bad placenta - the mother had an infection. It smelled like the paper under a steak from the grocery store - all lactic acid-y and sour.
After 4 m/c, our is here!
Way TMI info here but perhaps is related... Sometimes I can tell when DH is about to have an orgasm because the taste of his mouth changes. Is that pheromones too?
As a midwife I like the smell of birth: amniotic fluid, that odour of a birthing woman, the smell of a bit of blood (but that one makes my mind race a little when I smell it). Poop is poop, but vomit is really yucky for me. And the smell of earrings really gacks me out, too.
I love women, love being a woman, like being in service of women, like hanging out with women, so maybe women's smells just are comforting to me, in all their variety?
Ok - it's official. I've made myself look weird.
I guess make a note to burn some incense (if mama can stand it).