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It ultimately comes down to a personal decision. I hope your birth experience is great no matter where you are.
I won't rule homebirth out for the future. I now know that I could certainly do it safely. I had a good hospital experience (natural, loved ones with me), but I couldn't wait to leave and get home to my own bed and kitchen.
Chasing DS since April 2007 and pumping for DD March 2013.
When next time came I planned for a home birth. Ended up with a m/c that transfered to the hospital. My hospital experience really sucked this time. I was more certain I wanted a baby at home.
HB finally happened for the next pregnancy. I can't imagine going to the hospital for giving birth now that I've HBed.
DD1 was my mother. She and her boyfriend kinda... invited themselves.. to move in with us. That was fun.
DD2, we were living in DH's grandmother's basement, because she needed help after having a minor stroke. We moved in to help her around the house, manage her diabetes, and make sure someone was always home with her and able to take her to her appointments. And she was deadset against homebirth.
So, I got screwed both times.
~*Have more than you show, speak less than you know*~
For those of you that had a hospital birth for at least one of your kids why did you choose that instead of a homebirth? I'm having a hospital birth for my first and it's for a number of reasons. My husband is not comfortable with home birth and while I'm the one going through labor I refuse to just push his feelings and concerns aside. To me, his fears aren't really justified, but I understand them. Also I know logically my body is built to have babies, but emotionally I'm not at the point where I can shove all the what ifs away and say and feel mostly certain that my body really can do this. Lastly I've heard really good things about the hospital from doulas and their website shows at least some consideration for mothers. They encourage rooming in, waiting at least an hour for tests unless something else is wrong, all the rooms have jacuzzi tubs for water laboring, etc.
Liked the idea of homebirth with midwife, but thought that it was "safer" in a hospital and not sure what I might "need" even though I very much wanted an intervention-free birth. Lots of first-timer uncertainties about what actually goes down (no pun intended).
Tried to get a midwife in my rural home. Found out the new provincial funding of midwives resulted in them working only within 30 minutes of an obstetrical facility (Oh, the faith! Oh, the choice!). Had a laid back family doctor to attend the birth and knew him from first birth. Was preparing to pack up house and move overseas for at least a year right after the birth, so didn't really have the time/facilities for a homebirth. Didn't think there was any point to having a midwife in a hospital that would be a much further drive.
Got lazy, basically. Knew I couldn't get a midwife at home. Hadn't yet read much about unassisted birth. (And with each birth, the general mild disgust my husband and I now have for the medical profession grew and grew).
Birth #4 & #5
Heart-wrenching. So very, VERY close to having an "unassisted" home birth. While not wanting a professional on the scene, DH and I did think it would be wise to have a third adult present and we didn't have anyone willing to do this. Twin B was double footling breech, which seemed to us to be as much an indication for staying away from doctors than running to them. Went with hospital due to lack of someone to help us at home. If this pregnancy had been a singleton, it definitely would have been a UC.
Not sure that I'm crunchy, but definitely a "tough chew".
At the time I had my hospital birth I thought only hippies or people with a death wish chose to give birth at home because "everybody knows" hospitals are the safest place to have a baby.
After a really crappy, unsafe birth I actually did some research. Initially dh was NOT comfortable with home birth. I simply continued to educate him. Eventually he realized it was wrong of him to ask me to have a hospital birth I felt to be unsafe and potentially violating and since home birth IS safe he should support me in what I wanted to do.
Homeschooling Mom of 5 dds
Planning my fifth natural birth using Hypnobabies for baby boy coming in June 2012!
We did Bradley, we had amazing natural and hands-off births at the hospital. Truly, the most awesome within the hospital experiences you can imagine. I was in complete control. I was in charge of my own labor. I got in the pushing position I wanted to be in. I had NOTHING done without my consent.
Within minutes of each birth, I was up, rinsed off and back in my own clean gown and finding yummy food to eat, while trying to nurse the newborn and calling our mothers! The nurses were all so impressed. I was back in my own home within 24 hours with no complications of any kind.
whith #2 even though i read alot more (because the experience with an epidural and having a cathter led me to learn more about natural birth) i still didn't learn a whole lot about homebirth. and the midwife i found was a cnm who only did hospital deliveries......
when we have #3 (soon i hope) i'll be having either a homebirth or going to a free standing birth center the midwive i'll be seeing are far enough away that i'm wanting to be prepared to uc if i feel like i want to.....
With #2, I had planned an unmedicated, midwife hospital birth. Unfortunately, I was in a car wreck which injured my back to the point where I had to be in the hospital.
With my next baby I plan a midwife/birth center birth. I would love to in my home, but it's just not logical or comfortable enough.
Make the decision that's right for YOU!!
Labor progressed WAY faster and more easily than I could have ever anticipated. I was ready to push in our bathroom after 4 1/2 hours of labor, but (following through with our plan) we jumped into the car and headed to the hospital.
Nothing ultra traumatic happened. We have healthy daughter, but I wish her entry into this world was much more gentle.
I'd like to stay at home next time, and I've already given my husband fair "warning", so he can prepare himself for it.
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With my second we planned a HB, but there was a lot of stuff that got in our way.
That said, I had a good experience in the hospital with a midwife. But I also didn't know anyone who had done a home birth, and since then I've met quite a few, and it seems like its great-- especially for the older kids (not to have mom and dad leave them behind at this exciting/momentous moment-- though the birth center welcomes older siblings, grandparents, etc)
I will look into homebirth more next time (if/when there is a next time) but if I can't figure out a way to have insurance cover it, I will probably go back to the same birth center.
dissertating mom to three
IF I didnt have a history of bleeding so much after birth and had labors 18hrs or shorter I would probably do a home birth
With my second birth, I chose a birth center within a hospital. I didn't like that at ALL! It was basically the same as being in a hospital, imo. Still had to deal with the interventions and fighting people off and such.
With my third birth, I chose to be at home. I had a wonderful birth. Afterwards, however, I did transfer for a pph and retained placenta. But the hospital treated me so badly! Even with my history of a pph, I will have my next baby at home, without a doubt. My dh is totally on-board. He thought our hb was fantastic.
mom of (8) (5) (3) and born at home on Christmas day!
We lived in a 7th floor apartment, in married student housing, and the fire alarm didn't work reliably. We had times that the FD would show up at our building, and no alarms would have gone off. As a result, any time we heard sirens, we spent time 'on edge' and waiting to see where they would go, if they would come closer, etc... as you can imagine, v. high anxiety. We lived in downtown, near the freeway... there was no way we could go more than an hour or two usually without hearing something.
I knew enough about myself and the physiology of labor to know that I would tense up and stop every time I heard a siren. Leaving the apartment was, unfortunately, the only way to go, and we really couldn't afford to move elsewhere at the time.
As hospital births go, it went fairly well.
and Brigid Eleanor (11/20/08)
Also, because of that gray legality of the provider at a homebirth (it's perfectly legal for mom to homebirth, just not so legal to have a provider there with you), we decided that we are too much rule followers to have a home birth in this state.
With my second and third babies, I intended to use the birth center, but they risked me out in the end and my option was UC or hospital. And I was just not in a place where I could do UC. That was partially emotional, and partially the fact that we share a wall with another family and I felt like I coudl be *less* inhibited at a hospital than knowing two guys across the wall must be wondering what the heck was going on.
what is most important is that the mother feels comfortable with her decision and safe where she is giving birth.
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" ~~ MLK
With number 3 we lived closer to the hospital in case of transfer. I can't believe how wonderful homebirth is and I finally understand what everyone raves about.
Our next child is going to be a HBAC (hopefully!) and a water birth.
wife of 8 years to DH , mama to DD (2006) & DS (2011) (Dec. 2012) due Nov. 2013
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