Hi Katy-congratulations on the birth of your son! Did you mean for this to go in the cesarean support thread? When you ask the question about putting the birth in perspective, I think just allowing yourself to feel every feeling without guilt, and validating yourself is a very helpful way to reach acceptance. I found it helpful to write it all down, to talk about it (please feel free to share your story with us in the support circle) and to look at my disappointments head on. I had an emergency cesarean 3 years ago and in ti me I reached closure, but I had to acknowledge that in spite of having a healthy beautiful baby, I was still angry, mourning, sad, and resentful. All the best to you-it's so important to acknowledge these feelings. Come join us in the circle if you like.