P.S. I just edited the title of this post to note that I plan to do Hypnobabies. I wonder if that makes a difference. Would it be better to get there a bit earlier (well before pushing) in order to settle in and relax before the hardest part starts?
Mom to a bright & energetic 6 y.o. boy With my sweetie for 10 years now Registered nurse
So I ended up laboring at home for 13 hours. But it was okay because the baby wasn't born until over 8 hours later.
Have everything ready ahead of time -- I mean everything -- put any last minute things in the car as soon as early labor begins. Include a plastic bag in the car in case you are throwing up.
And the advice of not leaving until you can't talk/walk through a contraction is a good one. I totally tried to do that but just couldn't make it easily from our bedroom all the way to the garage.
But since you live so close to your hospital, your trip should be much easier than mine was.
Good luck, Mama!
But, right after we got there, I threw up, my water broke, and shortly after that cx were 2 minutes apart and I was 6 cm dilated. So... going earlier rather than later worked for us. I'm still not sure if I followed an "instinct" or just got lucky that my fear ended up helping us get where we needed to be.
So, I realize that this probably did not help you one little bit... except that it's good to have a plan of action, but also respect your own intuition and listen to your body.
Also, with a 2-minute ride to the hospital, I think it would be pretty easy to just go home again if you go in to triage and find out your not as far progressed as you thought. And, if things move faster than you expect, you'll still be able to make it to the hospital.
We arrived at the hospital at 12 noon, and I delivered at 6:25 pm.
DS, 10/07. Allergies: peanut, egg, wheat. We've added dairy back in. And taken it back out again. It causes sandpaper skin with itchy patches and thrashing during sleep. Due w/ #2 late April, 2012.
Army wife - Mama to Liam (9/07), Laine (5/09), and Eliza (7/11)
Later, I said someone call the MW we're going now. When the MW asked if I was sure I said "YES. WE ARE COMING NOW!" I did transition in the car, which turned out to be fine. Arrived at 9cm and had the baby about 1.5 hours later.
Really, I just totally knew when it was time.
28 hours laters (I did sleep some) I was back, this time I was at a 6.
Next time I think I'm going to just stay at home so I don't have to stress about it!!
Another thing to consider is what your mom and/or sister's labors were like. It's not a definite thing, but a lot of women have similar (fast, short, etc.) labors as their moms or sisters did. But, make sure theirs was the same drugs/drug-free as you are planning. Also, if your mom drank and/or smoked (more moms did back then!) when she was pregnant it's harder to compare (assuming you didn't!) because the babies had lower birth weights.
HTH! Good luck!
I would not suggest following the hospitals guidelines of 5 mins, cant talk easily through them.... that got me to the hospital 14 hours before the birth of my first. I thought I was in good hard labor when I went in. Yeah, i sure didnt know any better--I was in early labor, hadnt been through anything yet!!
Using hypnobirthing, I really dont know that it will make a difference as far as that part goes. You will be thrown off by the transfer reguardless and once there it may be more difficult to get back into it, so really you are probably best to stay home til pushy, if you really dont want to birth at home
I had a quick, unmedicated birth and said afterwards I should have just stayed home. With yds I did stay home.
Thanks for the 3:2:1 post - I'll file that away for January.
Maybe I'm unusual, but if you're going to stay home, why not just stay home? It's not like pushing the baby out without a trained professional is any more dangerous than laboring your entire labor without a trained professional. What do you perceive as the benefits of showing up at the hospital just to give birth?
This is my first baby and I wouldn't really be comfortable with UC at this point. My partner would not be either. On the other hand, I'd like to stay at home as long as is possible, in order to maintain my freedom to labor as I wish - in different positions, walking around, in water, etc... and also to be able to focus on my hypnobabies meditation.
I have a l.5 hour drive to the hospital. . . well, a bit over an hour when in heavy-duty labour!
With my first, I arrived there far too early. Five hours before I was ready to push. I was worried about the long drive, and how long it would take for us to drop our two dogs off at our friends. :
But in my other three deliveries, I "just knew". There's nothing more charted or executed than that. Sorry. Each time, we would be puttering at home in labour, collecting the last few things to the car and getting my accompanying SIL into town. Then suddenly, there would be a subtle, but noticeable shift, in me saying, "We need to get in the car and leave NOW". I arrived at the hospital:
- 50 minutes before the birth of #2
- crowning with #3 (would have been born sooner, but I was still seated in the car as we swept in to city limits).
- 45 minutes before birth of #4 (Twin A). We had planned to go to a more distant hospital, but didn't get that far.
Not sure that I'm crunchy, but definitely a "tough chew".
ETA: No one, not my dh, not my mom, and not my midwives if they had been there would have known how far along I was just by being around me. I was totally silent, unmoving, not making any sounds at all, laying over my birth ball. My mom said my face was totally relaxed so they didn't even know if I was contracting any more (I was).
We waited 17 hours before going into the birthing center. We left when contractions were 5 minutes apart because we lived a few towns over and would take awhile. I can't speak for everyone, but I had a great experience and am glad I went to a birthing center. DS was not breathing when he was born.
I'm not the OP, but I, personally, have had chronic hypertension since I was 20. I need to give birth at the hospital because I want someone there in case I start having major BP problems.
What I'm saying is if you consider it unsafe to deliver at home then how is laboring at home any safer? Its not as if the only complications happen while pushing.
the only benefit I can see is that the shorter time you are there the less time they have to intervene and screw it up.
You will be handling labor differently and will probably not appear to be as far along as you are. I didn't even know I was going through transition until it was over and they declared I was 10 cm. EVERYONE was surprised. In fact, they didn't have my hep lock in and hadn't drawn my blood yet, so they were rushing around doing that during my precious 15 min break in contractions before I started pushing. Being so relaxed, your labor is also likely to go very quickly like mine. There are so many stories of that happening with Hypnobabies. Soooooo, I don't know... When you're doing Hypnobabies it's not so obvious when it's time to go. I will say that the time that my contractions were noticable enough to require my full concentration, it would have been too late.
I am having a home birth with a midwife this time. #1) I know I would want to stay home as long as possible and would probably end up having the baby in the car this time, or just show up for pushing, and what's the point of that? #2) I hated the hospital stay.
In my mind it seems far safer to have some level of fetal heart rate/mama monitoring during labor than none. Just my opinion and I would love for someone to explain that to me. I know there are a few modalities of childbirth education that actively encourage this and it has never sat well with me. I think it's fantastic to show up on the later side, don't get me wrong...like a 6 vs. a 3, for example. But waiting until you're pushing seems very odd.
It feels funny to me that I would NOT be comfortable doing that, and yet people who choose to often say they would NOT feel comfortable with a homebirth which seems far safer to me. Thoughts?
RN-BSN 5/11, CBE, former doula
|It feels funny to me that I would NOT be comfortable doing that, and yet people who choose to often say they would NOT feel comfortable with a homebirth which seems far safer to me. Thoughts?|
It was funny because my m/w was 2 hours away from being off her shift and the other midwife taking over (which happens at 7am). So I woke her up 2 hours before her shift was to end and she waited to hear from the nurse in the birthing center before she made the trip to see how far along I was. The nurse was like, um... you better get here because she's going to have this baby very soon! She was awesome though and it was my best birth experience!
I'm not sure what the point is of going to the hospital just for pushing.
Also, for me, I'm just more comfortable having the birth at a hospital if only so me/my family wouldn't have a mess to clean up. Plus, I have to say I really enjoy the "after care" from the nurses. I like having the female help of being cleaned up (something I'd be mortified to have my dh help me do) as well as having meals brought to me .
It was my intention to get there late for all 3. With the first one, not having been in labor before, I actually got there super early - labored for 28 hours at the hospital The second one I got there at 9AM and gave birth at 4PM, so I probably should have stayed home a bit more.
The third one happened really quickly and I got to the hospital about an hour before she came out (and she was almost born in the toilet - it's a really fun birth story ). The midwife had enough time to monitor me for a bit and check me. I didn't think I was so close to birth when we went in and if my dh hadn't insisted we go in, she probably would have been born at home - or in the car!