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Hello everyone, I have been lurking on this forum for the past couple of days. I wish I found out about this forum months ago so I can better protect myself. I gave birth to my first baby on July 26th. He was 7 lb 7 oz and 19.5 inches. I had a really long labor and finally had pitocin and an epidural. Overall, the birth was pretty smooth compare to some of the other nightmare stories I read here, but I am still unhappy about the whole process and it depresses me the more I think about it. Here are some of the things that just didn't feel right to me.
-I felt rushed. I only felt the urge to push when the baby already started to crown, and even then it wasn't a strong urge at all. The nurse was yelling at me "I don't want you to scream, I want you to push", "hold your breath and don't let go", and "that push was no good, I want good pushes". Babies vital looked good, so what's the rush? How do you even push when you don't feel the urge to push? It boggled me, but I was in so much pain I was just doing whatever they told me.
-My female OB was not on call during that weekend, so it was a male doctor who delivered the baby. I was very confused toward the end from the epidural and not getting any sleep in over 24 hours, and the doctor never said a word to me and offered explainations when he poked and prodded me.
-After the birth of my son, they put him my belly and all of sudden I felt really sharp pain in my abdomen, and it turns out they were pulling on the umbilical cord to get the placenta out. I always thought placenta delivers spontaneousely after birth, and it just didn't seem right they have to rip it out of me especially without warning or a word of explaination.
-The doctor did an incredibly bad job of repair my perineal tear. He told me I had a very small tear, between 1st and 2nd degree. Initially I was pretty happy about it, those perineal message must have worked. However, I noticed I had an extra flap of skin down there when I was still in the hospital, but everything hurts so bad that I didn't want to jump to conclusion, maybe once I am healed, this extra flap of skin will shrink. I am now 4.5 weeks post partum and I still have this extra flap of skin. It looks like I have a second clitoris at my perineum. My vaginal opening is also much smaller than before I had the baby. I only found out about something called the "husband stitch" today. I don't know if I was subjected to that, but this seems unethical and illegal to me. How in the world can anyone legally mutilate a woman's body without her consent.:
These trauma combine with the fact that I had to undergo emergency appendectomy when I was 3.5 weeks post partum have made me depressed and unsure about my body. Do you think the doctor was negligent for performing such a shotty suturing job or does this problem occur so common that it gets scrap under the rug?
|I am sorry you had such a horrible experience, lots of hugs for you. I actually had a bit of a flap of skin when i tore, it was a first degree tear that went a bit funky. My midwife and i opted to give it a go with stitches to see if it would heal up, but it ended up soming free at about 2 weeks post partum, i just cut it off in the shower as it was dead, sorry if thats tmi. It sounds as if you may of had a similar thing?|
|Things can heal funny, even with the best repair, and that does not mean they were shoddy jobs.|
|I second the advice to get a good doctor or MW to look at it and tell you if you're a candidate for a revision surgery if you want one. I was also given the advice that it would probably correct itself with Baby #2, but since I don't plan on having Baby #2 for several years and the deductible is met now, I'm going to take care of it surgically this year. Good luck.|
|They are NOT supposed to yank on the placenta.|
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