With all due respect to the posters here, this was one forum I hoped to never have to start a thread in.
My pregnancy ended in 7 weeks. First ultrasound was a little small; second ultrasound, a heartbeat that looked too weak; third ultrasound, no heartbeat. I wasn't having any miscarriage symptoms, yet, but there was no hope.
My doctor presented my options: wait for my body to realize that I'd had a miscarriage, or make one happen with a suppository (apparently it's unpleasant), or get a D&C.
I really wanted closure. So I got a D&C today. I am sad about it, very sad. But I am OK. I am very lucky to have a happy, healthy 15 month old who I spend today snuggling with.
My question is - at the hospital I learned my copay was $500. Is that NORMAL? If it had been a healthy pregnancy, or even a high-risk pregnancy, there would have been no cost with my HMO (Tufts). But a loss is only covered after a $500 copayment??
I suppose the D&C was 'optional' - but my other option was to spend days or weeks waiting for blood to appear - the idea of knowing that it's coming is just wrenching. As was the idea (to me) of having the remains of the baby end up .... well, I just was more comfortable having it medically taken care of, personally. I know others feel differently, of course, that's fine but for me a D&C was the best option. If I'd know about the co-pay before I think I still would have opted for the D&C. But it's a whole lot of money I don't have to spare. Does ANYONE really have $500 to spare?
Anyway, just wondering if my experience was similar to anyone else's.