We were soooo incredibly excited about our baby. We have a son who is almost 15 months old and when we delivered the baby, we found out he was going to have a little brother. That's what makes it so sad...
I'm going to post my story on the exactly what did you see board later on, because nothing I have read so far, was my experience.
We are going to bury the baby today in our backyard (we could not bear to just throw it away and the baby is too big to flush down the toilet, which we wouldn't have been able to do anyway).
SAHM mom to 3 wonderful kids!
Dirt worshiping, creatress Mama to Rowan and Alden - home birth loving, no circ, no vax, extended breast feeding, cloth diapering, baby wearing, cosleeping
Jessica, wife to Derrick, missing Joslyn , 22 weeks 06.18.08, Baby Kai Ambrose 05.10.10 and Isla Blythe born on Thanksgiving '12
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
i'm so, so sorry.
I agree with the pp that talks about it being traumatic- there is no other category to put it in, to say the least.
Did you name him yet? I think a burial in the back yard will be comforting. I wish my son had been buried, and close to home.
Big hugs to you and your dh.
We think green! Gentle mama to 3 amazing kiddos. Recovering from religion.
LIFEschooling. Extended NAKing. Graduated cloth diaperer.
We also burried our babies in our back yard, with a rose bush.
I think writing your experience can be healing, and also helpful to others in similar situations.
We had a 10 wk demise with a backyard burial. It was really beautiful, but it took me a while to even let DH bury the baby. Still we felt so lucky to have the body, during the process we were hospitalized overnight, and I don't think they let you keep it.
It sounds like your demise and delivery happened very close together, so maybe that means something vis a vis the cause?
Aeona - married to super hot nerd Toby . . . mama to Grace (10) Evangeline (8) Duncan 11.14.08 , Henry (5) born at home and Ruby, 11.27.14.
Today is the one month anniversary of my miscarriage--I was 14w5d pregnant and so I feel like I'm probably familiar with what you experienced. Our baby was also a boy--our third son. We named him Noah and took two pictures of him, which I'm glad to have. Giving birth to him was very much like my other births, just the baby was small (4 inches). I think frequently about the moment he was born--how it felt, how he looked, etc. I don't remember it as a traumatic experience exactly--it was a birth and a letting go and it is almost "comforting" in a way for me to remember his birth (each time it is "proof" that he was here and I was pregnant or something?)
We buried our baby to the left of our front yard, by our labyrinth (we live in the woods in the country, so we don't exactly have a "yard" but more like land in front of and behind the house). I wrote a little bit about the ceremony we had for him here. I have more to say that I haven't had a chance to add yet. My dad cleaned up his body and we put him into a walnut Shaker box that my dad made, along with a liner and blanket that my mom crocheted. Then, we all added items to the box--a picture of our other kids, some springs of lavender, a penny from 2009, a venus of willendorf bead, a womb labyrinth postcard, etc.
Anyway, if you would like to talk more, I'm here!
Thinking of you and your baby.
DH 10/01, DS 1/04, DS 1/06, DS 5/09 (born sleeping), DD 4/11
i know thinking about the birth at first for me was very traumatic, (16 weeks loss) but as time goes by it is sort of comforting me to think about it,
with DH for 6 years, looking for lots of sticky baby dust for our baby.
We named our son Simon Bradford. We liked the name Simon and Bradford is my husband's name.
We buried him in our backyard on Sunday afternoon.
SAHM mom to 3 wonderful kids!
My loss was at 18 weeks and I had problems eating and sleeping for the first several weeks. While I'm still devastated with our loss three months later, I do eat and sleep better. Grief comes in different stages, both physically and emotionally.
Take care of yourself. I'll be thinking of you.
It is sad, so sad and I wish for brighter days ahead for your family.