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Old 01-25-2010, 02:43 PM - Thread Starter
 
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a year ago today a woman I was in class with lost her son at birth due to a veleminous cord insertion that burst when her labor started. He was born still later that day.
I did not know her well, but I still think of her often. She lives in the same neighborhood as I do so go past her house regularly, but I have not spoken to her since the memorial.

I was wondering if it would be inappropriate for me to leave her a card, or perhaps a candle for her son today?

Thank you for advice, and blessings to all of you.
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i think it's a wonderful idea.

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Please do. Remembering her son is kindness itself.

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definately...knowing others have not forgotten is the best gift ever!
what a compassionate person you are

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definately...knowing others have not forgotten is the best gift ever!
what a compassionate person you are
ITA!!!

I had a few friends and colleagues give me cards and I was soooo deeply touched that they remembered. Us mamas who have lost babies want to know that it mattered to other people and not just us.

You are a very good person to think to do this.

Happy Mom of Maeve (6). Always missing my DD2 Daisy (22 weeks--June 2008). After an ectopic at 6 wks (11/08) and a miscarriage at 5 wks (12/09), Rainbow Baby Finn is here (10/3/10)
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Yes, definitely leave her a card. She will be touched that you remembered and happy that someone cared enough to let her know that she was being thought of at such a tough time.
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Absolutely do this. Absolutely. She will cry and she will be SO grateful and SO happy that you remembered. It will validate him as a little person, which he was!!! It is SO so so important to us all, that people remember our little ones as the people they were, not just unborn souls and fetuses.

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Thank you all for your responses.
I left a little card that said "a light for Liam and a blessing for you" and a candle on her porch.
I decided it didn't matter who it was from, just that he was remembered in the world and that his life and death touched even strangers.
i wish you all strength in your own journeys.
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Aww.. that was really sweet. I'm sure she will be very touched and feel very blessed to know someone was thinking of her and her little boy.
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crying just IMAGINING having a friend and caring person like you.....please do it.

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Send the card. It will make her cry, but it will be a good cry because someone...anyone remembered.

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This post brought tears to my eyes.. Thank you..
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