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Old 06-10-2012, 05:49 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hey everyone. Guess I had to share somewhere. So I think I'm 6 wks along today, based on when I'm 99% sure we conceived. Last night I wiped brown discharge and then had a little more this morning. Then it stopped. After the urging of a friend and DH, I went into the ER to see "for sure" what was going on. They did an ultrasound and I only measured at 5 wks or 5.5 wks. It's just a sac at this point with no heartbeat detectable. My HcG levels are 14k which surprised the sonographer. They discharged me saying that things looked positive, but that I should have another ultrasound in a week. My gut feeling is that the baby stopped growing a few days ago. I've stopped feeling nauseous, but still feel woozy and my boobs are sore.

 

Is it possible that the implantation took longer than usual and that's why my weeks are off?


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Did they check your tubes to make sure it's not ectopic?

 

Brown discharge is pretty normal, as the embryo implants and the placenta burrows deeper into the lining of your uterus, it can cause some spotting. If your hCG is that high, you'll probably continue to have some symptoms regardless. I would make an appt with an OB who has a good ultrasound machine to go back, they should be able to see a fetal pole in a week, even though it might be too early to see a heartbeat, I would consider growth a good sign.

 

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Thank you! It's not ectopic, thank goodness. I was worried about that because I had localized pain on my left side but turns out it's a cyst. The ER doc told me it's common with early pregnancy so I'm not worried. I'm going to call my family doc (who is also an OB) tomorrow for an appt. I plan to go with a midwife if this pregnancy sticks, but for now I need to see who I know I can get in to.


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You can concieve on one day but implantation has variability, half a week I wouldn't be too worried about.

You can also have a subchorionic bleeding which in the majority of cases is no cause for concern. 

Its so hard to wait but try to keep yourself busy.  The HCG levels sound great.


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Thank you! I am still waiting...


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I found the waiting to be the hardest part.

There is nothing worse than not knowing.

I am a big "planner" I hate being in limbo.

My dr told me you have to treat yourself as 100% pregnant until you are not.


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Thanks Shiloh, that's good advice. Today DH has the day off and took the kids out, so I have the day to myself to just feel things-- and watch movies and eat snacks!


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great advice almost impossilbe to take!

 

But I have learned so much through this process that I couldn't have learned otherwise.

I felt so alone, I withdrew from so many people,

Take care and remember someone on MDC is always here and knows what you  are going through.


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I just read through your history and hug2.gif. I'm so sorry for your loss. I appreciate the candor with which you've described your experience-- I think miscarriage is something women don't talk about too freely and that's one of the reasons I love MDC and am so happy to have this forum. I completely agree with the whole not everything happens for a reason, but those experiences are instead ways for us to grow through processing emotions.

 

People DO say the dumbest things! I only told those closest to me who I knew would have my back 100% either way. I didn't choose to tell certain family members who said unkind things the last time I miscarried, which was almost 7 years ago, such as "maybe this is for the best" (I was 24 at the time, partnered only for a few months, and really broke but still really excited!)

 

I think part of my sadness is not really knowing *for sure* but feeling almost completely sure that the baby did indeed stop growing coupled with the fact that DH and I most likely won't try again, at least not for a few years.


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At the same time I lost the baby, my friend lost her brother.  So we had some great discussions on grief and loss and the dumb things people say.

They are not in a "better place", who gives a rats ** if I see them "again in heaven".  Sure I can try again, but it won't be the baby I lost, you don't replace people like property!

This is not "for the best", this was not "bad timing", who gives a ** if "god has a plan". 

This was my one confirmed loss....sure fluke, age, chrom, getting pregnant on the pill, my blood clotting disorder....

I know someone who has had 5 - one blighted ovum, one early loss, two "incompetant cervix", and one disappearing twin, with only 1 live baby.

Zero medical conditions.

Where's the sense in that?

 

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I think even with kids in general, you never know if the awful and unthinkable could happen. Part of being a mom and feeling motherly love is the worry that goes along with it. I try to cherish every day.

 

Today, feeling like I couldn't wait any longer, I went in for bloodwork to check my hcg levels. I had to push for an appointment because the lab was about to close, and then when I got there they told me I wouldn't even know til tomorrow afternoon. I feel like trying to "know" has been a lesson in futility and patience and I just need to accept that. At least I'll have some answers tomorrow-- maybe!


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Its funny you say that.  My consolation and odd bargaining to myself was I'd rather lose a pregnancy than one of the children I know.

I saw a mother who had lost all of her children in a plane crash talking about the sense of freedom and that she didn't worry anymore because

when you have children and they are out in the world they take your heart with them wherever they go.  It really made me pause, and admire her honesty (I'd still be in a straight jacket)


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Yeah, definitely not comparing the loss of a child to a MC... I guess I just see this whole motherhood journey as a continuum with the possibility of loss starting at conception. I find out my results in a couple of hours. Yikes!


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I hope it is positive news!


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So my levels are up to 28k! But now I'm convinced it's a blighted ovum. Now waiting for ultrasound on Monday.


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Well you can think what you want but I am not convinced. 

Those numbers sound viable to me!

The spotting stopped and there are more places spotting can come from - such as sex or left over implatation bleeding or even a small sch.

There is a good chance you got a sticky normal pregnancy!!!

6 weeks is early and there is a lot of variation, so far so good.

I am praying for you! 
 


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Thank you! I'm gonna try-- haha-- to take my mind off of it til Monday.


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Yeah!!!!

You are pregnant today!


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Aaaaand... I'm pregnant today too! joy.gifHad the US done and saw the little bean and a heartbeat. I'm six weeks so still having some waiting to do.... but I am over the moon.

 

Thanks for much Shiloh for your support. It meant so much to me!


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Gosh I love being right!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm so happy for your sticky!
Keep me posted!

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Thank you!! love.gif


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