I put a question mark, because I still feel hopeful.
I had some light cramps last night around 11pm. Woke up at 3am thinking I had wet myself. Went to the bathroom, and during the pee, began to bleed.
The bleeding picked up right away, and within an hour I had passed a clot about the size of my palm. My cramping had stopped, but the blood had just started.
I bled a scary amount (for me) until 9, when I finally got ahold of the doctor. She didn't feel the need to see me, just asked that I go get blood work done today at a lab nearer to me, and then do a repeat blood work visit in 48 hours to compare the pregnancy hormone levels. By 1pm the heavy bleeding with clotting had stopped, but light bleeding has continued. I am still not feeling crampy or pain, but am feeling very weak, probably due to all the blood loss.
I have never miscarried, so don't know what to expect.
I still feel a hard lump where the baby should be, just about the hairline. Everything in me is hoping it's a sch... But everything in me is prepared to let this one go.
The doc didn't seem concerned at all, just apologized for my loss. Told me to call back if things got really heavy (in comparison to what I'd experienced?! I think it was really heavy!) She didn't tell me to call back to schedule a check up to make sure everything had passed, didn't want to check for a heartbeat or a moving creature. Is this normal?
What do I do from here? Just wait and hope it all clears itself out?
I want to miscarry naturally, but I want to know that it is a loss, and that it is completed, when it's completed.
How are you doing now? (2-3 days later?) Did the bleeding get worse? Did you pass tissue?
I know that I would want to know for sure. My doctor was not much help to me because there was nothing he could do, but he did send me for an ultrasound a few days after my first loss to make sure it was complete, and he sent me for blood work during my last loss to see if my HCG levels indicated loss (but I already had an ultrasound scheduled in that case). For my 11 week loss, he said, "There is nothing I can do for you, but if you want an ultrasound (which I did), your best bet is to go to ER." I think I would do that if I was in your position, but I understand it might be more comfortable for you to labour at home. If the bleeding has slowed/stopped, you will want to have your HCG levels checked (and maybe an ultrasound) to see if the pregnancy is viable. If the bleeding has gotten heavier, you still probably want to know what is going on, but you will be more likely to have a D&C if you go in. For me, I was glad to be in the hospital when the bleeding got really bad (I was not prepared for that) and the D&C was a relief.
Now mom to DS1 born January 2010 and DS2 born December 2014!
12/08 (6 weeks), 1/13 (11 weeks), & 12/13 (9.5 weeks)