In part because I didn't want my boss to think I was calling in sick because of the move/holiday (& also because I trust him) I decided to tell him what happened. He was very understanding & told me to take the time I need. I took off Thu & Fri.
I don't know why but now I'm worried what my coworkers will think & I'm debating whether I should tell them. One coworker emailed me about swapping work since she'd need to cover me on Fri. She also offered to help me move this weekend. No one yet knew I was pregnant. But my coworker's email made me irrationally mad & I didn't respond. I got the sense she thought I just took some random time off for the move & meanwhile I'm actually really suffering & don't give a care about swapping work!
I appreciate my boss's discretion but now part of me wants to clear the air. Should I? I'm a fairly private person at work so I don't want to. But I also don't want my team assuming I'm a slacker.
Also I don't even know when I should go back?? I was planning on Tues but is that too soon (that would mark 6 days)? I'm feeling better (obviously not 100%) & bleeding is less (like a medium flow).
Mama to my little busy bee.
So so sorry for your loss. It is up to you if you want to tell them or not. I told only the people that need to know. (only a few people know)
As far as going back to work-- I would go if I felt OK. for me getting back into normal life helped.
If you don't want to tell them you miscarried, maybe you could tell them that you took a few days off due to some medical issues, but are feeling better now and ready to get back into the swing of things. They probably won't ask unless they're particularly nosy, but if they do you could tell them that it's kind of personal and you prefer not to discuss it. If you have this conversation with one or two people, it will probably get around and unless you work in an extremely nosy boundary-pushing setting, others won't bug you about it.
Or you could just say nothing, do your work like normal, and if others are going to make stupid assumptions about you that's on them.
I have not miscarried myself, so I can't answer your other question. I'm just commenting based on my experience in different work environments.
Best of luck.
Unfortunately, I worry I overdid it! I'm on my commute home & in a fair amount of discomfort. I may skip it tomorrow (luckily I can work from home)--I really don't want to delay healing by doing too much!
Mama to my little busy bee.
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