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#1 of 4 Old 06-26-2014, 01:10 PM - Thread Starter
 
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21 week loss

We lost our little girl two weeks ago due to complications from a chromosomal disorder. I delivered in a hospital and we had her remains cremated. Once I can bring myself to pick up her remains, we plan to plant them with a tree. I can't seem to find much information on second trimester losses. I had an 8 week loss before and felt completely normal within a few days. This time, I still feel awful and still look like I am showing a little after two weeks. We would like to try again soon because our family doesn't feel complete. I am wondering what kind of timeline is suggested after a 2nd trimester loss.
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Just stopping by to say I'm sorry for your loss. Sending hugs you way .
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So sorry, mama, for your loss. Hugs. I don't have any advice in terms of the timeline as I lost mine at 11 weeks. Have your healthcare providers given you any suggestions? It seems that opinions vary widely. I hope someone has some ideas for you. Many healing vibes your way.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I just wanted to say that I also planted a tree last week and it was very healing. We did a ritual and I placed things in the soil and said prayers. We also chose a fruit tree so that certain times of year the tree would be vibrant and bear fruit and offer us nourishment. It felt beautiful in a very particular kind of way. So just wanted to share that, although my loss was much earlier than yours I thought to share about our planting. Although you may have already done something as it was a few weeks ago. I am so sorry you are going through this.
Sending healing thoughts your way.
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