my condolences for your loss
i just gave birth to our little angel yesterday morning. i would have been 22 weeks yesterday, so as far as work goes i'm out for the moment as well.
i've only been to work a couple days since we found out that our baby had severe deformities. that was december 13th. even knowing about the impending miscarriage made going to work difficult, and now that its actually happened its hard to imagine even going back. however, the couple of days i did work helped me take my mind of the situation, but then again some days are better than others. i came in for half a day once and did ok. it felt good to take my mind off our grief, if even for a few hours. i tried again another day that weeka nd broke down crying, my boss told me to go home and take it easy. another day i went in for a full day and found that around hour 6 of work it became too much. i work with a chiropractor and i talk to most of the patients. it was sometimes difficult to talk to patients and holding back tears when they asked me how the baby was doing.
that being said, i found that going back had both pros and cons, of course. i intend to start back up in a couple weeks, doing half days for the entire month. all together i will have taken about a month of work. as far as money is concerned, we could definately use my extra income, but think about the money that comes with actually caring for a baby (maternity leave + diapers, clothes, food, etc...). taking time off is definatelly something that is priceless and will go a long way for you. take time to grieve, but remember, its also very taxing on your body and soul. distraction is also good, but it can also be easy to be overwhelmed.
everyone grieves differently and emotions are handled differently by everyone. you'll know best when you are ready.
i dont know if any of this has helped you, but if anything know that you are in my thoughts. please take care of yourself. i find comfort in knowing that there is a huge support for mothers in our situation and it helps so much.