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#1 of 8 Old 07-30-2008, 10:28 AM - Thread Starter
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Hi. We use Bum Genius and love them. DS just started day care after being at home with dad for 7 months. She reluctantly agreed to use our diapers, even though she said that "a few years ago she tried it with another baby and they got too smelly" She has been putting a huge amount of bordeaux (sp?) butt paste on DS, and now a few of the diapers are stained with it. I have talked to her about it, but she really would still like to use diaper cream (I don't think it is necessary most of the time). Any recommendations for a gentler cream that won't stain the diaper?

btw - we went through 3 day care providers before finding her, and she is really great otherwise, so this is something that I am just going to have to live with, but I would like to find something better if she is going to insist on using cream.

Also, any ideas for getting the stained diapers clean again?

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I say just sun 'em to get out the stains. You can also send along disposable or fleece liners which will protect your dipes from stains. We used Balmex, which doesn't stain but may build up if you're not careful about washing.

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I've never had a problem with Burt's Bees, but I do use it only when necessary and do not slather it on.

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we never use cream unless dd has a rash, and that is very rare. i would just explain to her that you only want to use cream if there is a rash. she should respect your choices as a parent. i cant imgine that diaper cream would be a deal breaker for her with watching your kid. im sure as a provider she has had to do what a parent wanted even if it was different from what she would have done with her own kids.

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Could you not say something like, "I know you prefer to use diaper cream at every change, but we have found with our DS that it is unnecessary. It builds up on the diapers and causes them to smell. Please do not use diaper cream on our son. If necessary please use XXX cream and these fleece liners to protect the diaper."

You could preface that with how great she is and how happy you are to have found her. But bottom line, you should have veto power on stuff related to your child.

I can't remember what it is but I know someone posted a cream that is compatible with cloth.

You can make fleece liners even if you don't sew. Fleece doesn't ravel so you just cut it to the shape and size you want and it's done.

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I wouldn't bring diaper cream at all unless your child has a rash. Tell her the ped said it was unnecessary, if the approach of saving your dipes doesn't work.

We use California Baby Calendula cream (not the designated diaper rash cream, as it's a barrier and will stain like the others over time). It washes out a lot more cleanly than Butt Paste or Burts, IME.

You could also get some Kushies flushable liners.

But honestly I'd just stop bringing in cream. Unless she's using her own in which case tell her that with cloth dipes they don't NEED the barrier cream because the fleece provides the barrier already.

Most older folks who have experience with CDs are limited to the old style prefolds, which stayed very wet, or the nonbreathable disposables, which also encouraged rashes. With the modern CDs' design in most cases the skin stays dry already so the barrier cream as a preventative is unnecessary.

The buildup over time will not go away in the sun. It will remove some of the stain probably but not the residue, which can contribute to stink and repelling issues. You'll have to strip them with Dawn to remove it and if allowed to continue it can ruin your dipes. Tell her the only thing that will make these CDs stink is if she continues to put a barrier cream on you child.

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Thanks. Now that I think more about it, I will just take the cream from her and ask her not to use it unless he has a rash. We had such a rough time finding somebody that we like, I guess I keep thinking that she is the one doing us a favor. We live in a small town, with few good choices. But we are paying her a lot of money, so I can't see how it would be a deal-breaker. Thanks for your replys.

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Do you mean Boudreaux’s Butt Paste? If that's what it is it will most likely kill your diapers if there isn't a liner in separating the cream from the diaper.
It's awesome rash cream but not for the CD!

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