Hello, all! Good to be here! I was hoping someone could help offer me some tips on how to get started. My apologies for the long post.
We started about 5 days ago (she's 5 months old), and so far we've had success with one pee per day in the potty (no poops), but the success comes from keeping her diaperless and either sitting her on my lap (on a flat diaper), laying her on the floor (to watch for signals) and hovering/sitting her on her BBLP when I think I might see a signal. After she's pee'd, I put her diaper back on until the next time I think she'll need to go (after waking, big meals, etc).
However, I have sat with her on the floor (several times) for well over 2 hours just watching for a sign, and not got anything until the second I put her on down, and/or turn my back. And by the time I notice she's done, I miss the opportunity to make the PSSSS sound, although I do tell her what she did (you pee'd! good girl!).
I'm also switching to cloth (flat) diapers to to encourage her to feel uncomfortable in her own wetness (disposables keep her WAY too dry), and she does fuss and cry after she pees, but she tends to "dribble" a lot, so I'm CONSTANTLY changing her. By doing this, I'm hoping that she'll associate that when the diaper comes OFF, it's time to pee.
She also doesn't seem to show ANY signs that she's going to go (or already went), except for the 5 or so times she did it while sitting on her potty (her whole body goes stiff). Unfortunately, she does this sometimes in her diaper, even when she doesn't pee, so I can't use this signal as her cue.
And if she fusses ON the potty, I immediately take her off again and wait until I think she's about to go, which usually ends with fussing again if I hold and hover (which of course ends immediately as I want her to enjoy the experience). She will be perfectly happy for an hour or more, but it seems like she's holding it until the diaper goes back on.
Can someone offer me some tips so I'm not spending my days on the floor? Should I forget the potty altogether and just let her pee on (not in) a flat diaper so I can track her patterns and make the pssst sound?
I know this can take months, but I'm kind of at a loss on how to start...
Thanks for any help you can offer!
Edit: Something I forgot to add. I've caught a pee before (in her BBLP), and didn't know it because I didn't hear it! She did it again just now (after sitting for about a minute, so I'm not sure how long ago the pee happened). And hovering her over a sink (and waiting) isn't an option as she weighs nearly 20lbs.
Will she associate the "psssss, good pee!" cue sounds AFTER she pees?