I post here because EC is the approach I've been using part-time since my twins were 9 months old. They've done great, and have always used the potty/grass/gravel for the majority of eliminaton, and have had very few accidents when left diaper/pants free over the last year. DD is long done with needing day-time diapers, but my struggle is with DS. He is on a strike at almost 3yo!, so much so that I had to put him in diapers again because he was peeing any and everywhere and seemingly not even caring. He says he wants to wear diapers! We were staying at someone elses house all last week, so I had to keep diapers on him. I'd kindly try to help him use the potty but he'd arch and scream and not even let me take his pants off most of the time. He pooped in his diapers 3 times! Even taking off a soaked diaper was upsetting to him and he'd scream he'd want it back on. What is this diaper attachment all about?
I try to be as respectful as possible to my childrens needs, but I just can't let him stay in a wet diaper like he wants--that's where I draw the limit. Now back at home, DH and I agreed we'd just not put the diapers on, because if it is on, he uses it like a toilet now. Well, he just pees anywhere and seems oblivious to caring, saying "I don't want to". I'm sure this reflect some developmental stage he is going through, like uncertainty about no longer being a baby, but now what? It makes me sad to see him soaking himself and totally disregarding his elimination awareness that he has demonstrated the last 2 years. I want to help him. Can anyone shed some light on this?
The only thing that makes me wonder, is that he has recently also learned he can retract his foreskin and is fascinated with how he can have an erection. Is it possible the sensation can be confused with the sensation of needing to void and he doesn't know how to distinguish between the two. Has anyone else observed this?
Mama to DS & DD, 4 years old TWINS
Birthing/Postpartum RN on my "free time".