I thought it was a phase, but now I'm not sure what to do. Anyone been through such a dry (or wet I suppose) spell? What can I do to get back on track?
Always watched over: :
She needs to know what your expectations are without any pressure and to do it herself.
It can be hard but I'd go for it.
If she cannot pull down her pants herself, go for naked time a few hours a day, in a certain room.
Good luck. It's a tough age. We were back and forth at that time, too.
I second EdnaMarie's suggestions about talking to her and letting her know that the potties are there when she needs them. Tell her that you'll take her diaper off any time she tells you she needs to use the potty and then wait for her to initiate (and do naked time when you have the energy). Tell her that if she keeps herself dry, you'll let her go naked more. Even when they can't talk, they understand so much. And then just go back to only offering once every couple of hours, and if she says no, let it go. It's hard. Good luck!
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Keep offering when you can, but try not to stress
I put training pants on her when we're doing back-up, because they can be put on standing up. She's mostly ok with that.
She can also say "no" now, so if we're heading to the potty and she says no, then that's it, I don't put her on the potty. I don't distract her with a toy or anything, I just don't put her on. That, too, is different from where we were previously. I also offer way less frequently than before. I do still offer, just not as often.
I wish I had backed off like this sooner, but I didn't!
I read about babies that take themselves to the potty as young as this or younger, my babe has only kind of done that one time. (And it was last week after I backed off, she took herself outside when I left the door open.)
My dd (and your baby, too!!!) is learning to do lots of things on her own right now. She's really into spoons, and prefers spoon foods to the finger foods I'd been giving her. Going potty on her own is another thing she's learning, and it's messy, too!
We've had lots of no-catch or one-catch days, and also lately we've had a few one-miss days sprinkled in there! Last week we had a one-miss day, then a molar started busting through. That was the end of that. I'm happy to say that yesterday was a zero-miss day. And we had two days of pooping in the potty. This is big for us!!!!
I had been comparing my baby to what she was before (no poop misses at all from 8-10 months of age, not one) and to other babies (I met a lady who was buying a potty for her 14 month old who suddenly didn't like to poop her pants. But my baby was EC'd and she didn't seem to mind pooping her pants!) And I had to stop doing that, because she's the baby she is right now! It helped me!
Despite the many misses, it really does seem like it's coming together.
I could go on and on, but I'll stop right now.
In the mean time we did a few hours of naked time with a miss right on my foot, but she started to grab a flat fold diaper I kept nearby to help clean up, so that's something I suppose. It helps that my morning sickness is easing up so the smell of urine doesn't start me gagging so I think I'll be better with the misses when they happen.
Always watched over: :
I'm thinking of trying the backing off approach if only for my own peace of mind. This has been going on for a solid 2 months at this point with occasional spurts of no misses (almost always away from home). She is doing some serious teething and thus nursing nonstop, which means tons of wet diapers. It's just so frustrating to go from so few misses to offering and then having her go in her diaper immediately following.
I've tried changing the potty position and adding the seat reducer, moving the plastic potty into different rooms, letting her play with one. She's actually put a toy doll on the potty and signaled for it to pee - super cute, but why won't she go like that??
I'm off to the laundromat to do diapers...
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