This summer I wrote about how we were having ecing issues. The advise and encouragement I received helped me keep at it. Things seemed to fluctuate from the same to a bit better then not so great. Well it's been about 9 months (I think) and I am here to say things are getting worse.
He has pretty much refused to use the potty since it got cold. I offer him all sorts of places to pee. However at this point the only pee that doesn't end up in a diaper, on the floor on in his pants is caught when he has just woken up (1-2 per day).
Some times we have better luck when we are out, maybe an extra pee a day once a week.
For nearly three months now he has only wanted to poop on the go, in a diaper. on the floor, in his pants, and a few days ago in the tub while we were taking a bath. Yuk!
I keep telling myself to just work with the catches we are getting and build from there .
I have no intentions of giving up, and want to remain relaxed and positive, but am in need of feed back.
He is about 15 mos, and is starting to communicate using the potty sign (although he seems to use it more to let me know he already peed or just cause he likes when we take his clothes of).
It is way to cold here to let him roam naked. I was ok with the pee, but poop in the pants makes me feel a bit panicky so now he wears a cloth diaper pretty much all the time. I'm with him all the time, and am striving to be unconditionally present.
um I guess that's it. Thank you for reading and any tips, comments, so on will be appreciated.
Combination of the cold and not wanting to stop for the potty?
Have you tried bringing the potty to him when you think he might need to go? When dd was in that stage she'd reject the potty utterly if I offered (or even just said that it was potty time) but had no problems with letting me sort out her clothes and sit her down on the potty right where she was playing.
Mine went through and is still sort of going through this phase... she's 12 months. We miss quite a few pees during the day and used to be about 90% consistent after naps and now we are about 30-40% on that.
What has started working for us (I think??) is we make potty time her special time. I sit there with her and read books and play with her - sometimes for quite a while. Often times she does nothing. In fact, DH just said, do you think we should limit her time on the potty since she isn't doing anything?? My opinion is that the more time she is on there, the more opportunity she has to "get it right". By the way, she did the refusal/stiffen her body thing for a while anytime we would try a few months ago. We started rewarding her with Gerber Puffs (we don't give them to her any other time) for just sitting on the potty - even if nothing happened. I think that started the association that sitting on the potty is a good thing.
If she is NOT on the potty, I very rarely leave her diaper free as she almost always will go on the floor right away (even if she just got done sitting on the potty for 20 minutes!!).
The poops used to be super consistent in the mornings where they are not anymore, either. We still catch quite a few in the potty, but often it's after I already see her pushing/grunting and I have to rush her to the potty for it to essentially "fall" in there.
I am guessing yours is walking now, too - which makes sitting on the potty even less appealing when there is so much to explore! Mine is so close to walking that she has a difficult time, too - which is where super fun, silly books come in. It's the only thing that makes her sit for a bit!
Good luck! And when in doubt, diaper... he will get it eventually! I find it's often easier to leave her in a diaper as opposed to getting frustrated with her for going on the floor. And keep in mind that it's communication...not potty training. I often forget this, so it bears repeating!!