So...I've tried laying off her for a week, putting the potty in different locations, making up silly potty songs...no luck. Today I decided for the first time ever to let her go diaper free with the potty right in the living area by her toys to see what would happen. I asked at one point if she needed to go and she nodded yes and got on the potty herself, then stood up and 30 seconds later was peeing by the TV. I tried putting tiny undies on her and she wet those and didn't seem to care one bit about being cold and wet. I tried having her mimic me by putting the potty in the bathroom and letting her in when I had to go...she happily got on the potty, then stood up and peed a foot away from it.
What am I doing wrong? Should I try giving her more diaper free or undie time and just deal with the inevitable mess for awhile? I'm afraid her diapers, whether cloth or disposable, are just too comfy and convenient for her. It's been almost two months that she's been off the bandwagon and I'm afraid she's only getting worse...she is starting to sit on the potty for only a few seconds or so more and more. Considering we've been doing this for so long I thought she'd be so much farther along by now.
We had the same type of "potty pause" at about the same time. Ours lasted for about a month or two and it was right about the time she was getting really good at walking. She was also getting her first molars and eye teeth all at once (teething has always made a bump in the road on our EC adventures). We never had her in diapers, always just pants or panties and sometimes naked. We have a couple different places in the house that we potty her at. I was always best at getting her to go on the big potty and DH was always best at getting her to potty over the kitchen sink. At night we use a baby bjorn potty and on the road we just squat where ever we can.
With that being said, what we did to get over the "pause" was;
1: waited it out
2: tried pottying in different spots
3: stuck right by her almost every second of the day (of course this was time consuming and not a lot got done those days, but I feel this was the main thing I did that helped get us through. It was almost like starting over from the beginning. I had to watch her cues and what she did right before she went. I felt like her cues changed at this age.)
4: tried to make her feel like she had a say in it all and that she was a willing participant
For #4 what I did was when I needed to go, I would say something like "Lavender, mama has to go potty, would you like to go with me?" she would almost always follow me into the bathroom where I would sit down,go potty and say "oh, I feel so much better after I went potty". Then I would ask her if she had to go and most of the time she would walk over to me and I would pick her up and set her on the potty. At first, she would sit for just a second and then hop off, but after about a week of trying the same thing she would start going and if she didnt have to go, she would just not walk over to the potty for me to pick her up.
Now at 16months, she has started giving some very direct signals she has to go, such as grabbing her crotch for pee or standing straight up and stomping around a little (as if she is trying to hold something in) for when she has to poo.
Hope some of this helps, and good luck!
I think you're doing great and working with her as much as she will let you. I read books to DD while she's on the potty and a sippy of cold water to drink often helps her go. You are modeling potty to her, talking to her about it, pointing out when she goes pee and giving her opportunities to use the potty. There aren't many more things I can suggest. She is a young toddler with her own ideas and the best thing to do is work with her and not develop a power struggle. It's easier said than done but as long as you are communicating with her about her elimination, it's still EC even without making a catch. I know you are frustrated but each kiddo is unique. This doesn't mean she didn't learn or get any benefits out of EC, just that right now she is not interested. We went through a smaller strike at 13 months when little miss started walking. I just kept potty part of the diaper changing routine but didn't fight if she popped up three seconds later and peed two feet away. I just kept saying "honey, pee goes in the potty" and cleaning up. Eventually she decided pottying isn't so bad if she gets undivided attention from mommy and maybe a story or two. We still have tons of misses and I couldn't survive without diapers. I'm just trying to make her feel wet as much as I can and keep potty a regular part of the day even if she doesn't use it. Drowsy DD is more cooperative and she ECs too well at night lol.
I know this is a long, rambling post but with a young toddler, I'm sure you understand what my days are like lol. Good luck and just keep up the communication. She will get there and already has a huge head start on most kids.
Like you mentioned Humboldt, I've definitely noticed today that she very much has to feel that SHE is making the decision to go and that I'm not just plopping her on the potty...otherwise she'll just sit for a few seconds or hop right off. She definitely wants to have a say now. Having her mimic me definitely helps too as late yesterday and once today she peed in her potty because she saw me doing the same. And I've been shadowing her all day today trying to note any signals but no luck...but then it's only been one day. I'm sure eventually I'll see something.
Sky, I've typically had her in either disposables or Fuzzibunz which both keep her way too dry, and like you said the undies are just too thin to be uncomfy when wet. I would have never thought to add a prefold or the like to them so thanks for that suggestion! I'll be trying that tomorrow.
And you're both right...she's definitely miles ahead of most toddlers even if she doesn't feel like cooperating at the moment. She's aware of how those functions work and she knows what the potty is for...so we are really communicating. Plus she does like the time I spend reading her books while she's relaxing on the potty. Seeing it from that perspective I'm much happier with our progress and I know eventually shell be more willing to cooperate. Thanks for the advice...now I'll be able to enjoy the process more and stop stressing so much over it!