For the past month my 24MO DS has developed an unwelcome skill. He doesn't wear a diaper at home but is pretty reliable using his potty. When he becomes upset or angry he pees and it's irritating. What does one do in this circumstance?
i would think the most productive thing here is to help him find a better way to express his frustrations or anger. toddlers are often feeling very out of control and that must be hard. I'm not sure how verbal your is yet, but he simple might not be able to understand or express all that is churning up in him and all toddlers.
So what if I don't fit cleanly into a defined parenting style, my kids don't fit into a personality archetype either!
As I've said elsewhere, above all: don't let it be a battlefield! If you are annoyed, talk about it on the forum all day, but don't get annoyed when it happens! Maintain complete calm, above all, talk about it in a peaceful way, and since you are pretty sure it is about his anger, talk about his feelings. Help him learn to name his feeling, and learn ways to express himself. i.e.: "Hey, you put your pee on the floor. You look very angry right now- are you feeling angry? Sometimes when I'm angry I like to... throw pillows at the wall!" Then do it! Or something else silly and fun that can help get our anger out. Invite him to do it with you. When I do this with my son, we always end up having a lot of fun. And you can try to figure out why he's angry- you probably know right? "are you angry because I wouldn't let you xyz?" Sometimes all it takes is acknowledging his feelings and the cause of them and he can be done with them. In this situation, unless you have other kids who are about to crawl through the puddle, I would actually try to address his feelings before doing anything about the pee. His anger is what needs to be addressed. Clean up the pee after your done talking about his feelings and throwing stuffed animals off the bed.
"That's the way it is, if that's the way it seems to you."
"Cosi e se vi pare."
Agreed! thank you for the suggestions! What a way to take the edge off of me on the verge of screaming but bottling it fuming. What a great way to talk myself off the cliff while teaching my DS not to angry pee on the floor.
My DS had his Dr visit and I asked her what to do about "angry peeing." She told me to discipline him whenever he does it give him a timeout. So I've doing this for the past 24 hours and so far it is working. My greatest fear with disciplining him for "peeing" is that it would set him back in "pt." She told me that is not the case since he uses and knows what a potty is for. He is forcing himself to pee for attention "negative that is!" Big difference.