I was just going to post pretty much this exact question.
My 3yo started using the toilet in October and is doing fantastically-- still some accidents and a wet bed a couple of times a week, but otherwise no big deal. Yay!
My 2yo (almost 28 months), on the other hand, is fighting every diaper change TOOTH AND NAIL and between wanting to respect what he wants for his own body and practical concerns (with all the kicking and flailing, it's not like he was getting clean or anything around him was staying clean, you know?), I've given up putting him in diapers. But he HATES the idea of using the toilet. He wants NOTHING to do with it. He also hates getting dirty, so doing the bare-butt thing has been tough on him, too, because his feet inevitably get the worst of it. I'm at a loss. We talk about what his body is doing when he eliminates, we have him involved in doing the cleanup, he sees his brother using the toilet consistently and fearlessly, he is interested in the toilet, but he will not actually sit on it. I've tried having him stand on the seat while I hold him, and holding him over it as securely as I can (he's wiggly) facing out, but nothing is working.
I do have hardwood floors, so I can just keep cleaning up after him for a while, but I'm also due with our new baby in April, so there is a time limit on my ability to follow him around with a rag...
Are you working with a little potty that's their size or just the toilet? MissAnthrope - sometimes my son prefers to stand and pee in the bath tub, that helps contain the pee when he insists on "pee like daddy".
A trick I used a lot when he was exclusively in diapers and fighting a change was to master putting them on while DS is standing. I'd direct his attention out a window ("do you see a truck? What color was it" etc) and wrap him up. This worked amazingly well!
As a side note, we've been taking a very casual approach to mastering the potty. We started in October, had a few regressions due to travel or illness, but are almost there! We alternate between underwear, cotton trainers, & diapers, but mostly use what he likes to wear - everything is at his level and he'll picks it out when it's time for clean bottoms. It's amazing how motivated he is to keep his Thomas & Friends undies dry because he loves them so much.
what did you end up doing???? I need help!
Daycare has been working on it (but she only goes twice a week). Peer pressure seems to work cause she will use the potty there. At home she still isn't interested. I am really not interested in bare bottom time and having to clean those messes. She seems to understand big girl vs baby things, so I am hoping we new baby comes (in 7 weeks) maybe she will want to ditch the diapers....
can recommend this book and lady enough, she is straight forward, explains things great and a clearly caring mom with a good parenting style herself.
she also talk a bit in her book and some on her blog about how having done EC interacts with potty training and how to make it work for you
So what if I don't fit cleanly into a defined parenting style, my kids don't fit into a personality archetype either!