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#1 of 4 Old 07-24-2013, 08:27 AM - Thread Starter
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All of a sudden, diaper changes and potty time seem like it's the worst thing that's ever happened to her! We part time EC, so she stays in diapers most of the time and I bring her to pee/poo very often, whenever I see she may have to go and whenever she needs a new diaper. She acts like I'm torturing her! The screaming and wiggling and twisting around! She was always totally fine with diapering and pottying up until now. She gets so angry and doesn't want to be held in position to pee, or sit on her potty, or sit on the toilet, even when I KNOW she has to pee. I give up because I'm not out to make her mad - but then she pees on the floor 30 seconds later! I've tried giving her toys or interesting objects, but it rarely works. I dunno what to do, but I'm incredibly frustrated and I've started to dread diaper/potty times because she gets so miserable and it's so difficult.



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#2 of 4 Old 07-25-2013, 02:37 PM
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Hello!  What you are describing is very common, especially when they start moving!  I ECed my first son, and am now ECing my baby (3.5 months).  I remember my first son being out of diapers and doing really well, then once he started crawling, he wanted nothing to do with the potty.  He still ECed at night, though, and for poops, so I just went through a lot of (waterproof) training pants.  He was in regular underwear by the time he was 14 months.  


With my little guy, he has times where he wants nothing to do with the potty.  Distractions, taking him outside to pee in the grass (and standing up!), even a wet washcloth to suck on has helped.  He's been in training pants since 5 weeks, and if I'm wearing him, we rarely have a miss.  But if he's in his exersaucer or playing on the floor, he often has wet pants.  I just stocked up on a bunch of training pants and don't worry about it.


The foundation you've set is still there, even if its hard to see at the moment!  :)  

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Back off the potty but keep talking about it. She probably wants more control. My kids despised laying down for diapers by that age and they were not fans of sitting still, either. If you're able, take the potty outside and encourage her to sit on it herself while holding on to your fingers. If she pees on the ground before during or after, it's no big deal. And if that change makes the process more comfortable, everyone wins.

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I was just coming to this forum to ask the very same question. My daughter is 9 1/2 months, and for the past several weeks, she's been screaming hysterically if I try to take her to the potty. I'm working way too much right now, but it's only for a few more weeks, and then I'll be able to get back on track since the babysitter seems baffled by how to help her. Would love to hear anything other suggestions that might help.

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