Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Washington state
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I agree with the idea of talking to the Bradley instructor (there may be more than one in your area so could be a more convenient time with another instructor) to see if she offers other classes or could refer you to another instructor. When dh and I took Bradley classes (which we LOVED and were definitely the reason we had such great natural births when I am a great big wimp), you could choose between Tuesday nights, Saturday mornings or Saturday afternoons. And if you missed one, you could make it up in another class that week.
Yes, I think that taking Bradley classes - even without your husband - would be very, very helpful! Bradley is husband coached childbirth but it is so much more than that! My dh was a wonderful coach but we also learned so much about how to eat and exercise while pregnant to avoid some of the complications you mentioned with your first pregnancy. A CNM (at a hospital) is better than an OB (IMO) but is still stuck with hospital rules/policy/etc. so it would serve you well to be informed by someone not connected with the hospital - namely a Bradley instructor.
I wonder if more calm, rational discussion between you and your husband would help? Do you think he may reconsider if you go ahead and register to go alone? Are the classes actually during his work time or does he go out of town some for work? You can make up classes or go alone sometimes if his work has to intervene but I think that going alone or with a friend would be better than not going at all. In our class, there was one mom who came with a family friend as her husband was in drug rehab - another mom who once brought her sister as dh had to work - another who lived very far away (ferry ride!) and occasionally came alone. Bradley classes are usually full of fairly alternative types (dh and I stood out like a sore thumb) so I don't think anyone would think it too strange if you came without him sometimes.