The reason I posted this thread to begin with is because I am doing some postpartum care for a mom who chose to give birth via c-section in her 38th week. When I talked to them about their baby being premature, they said, NO, she is only 5 days early. She had heavy vernix, hair all over her entire body, and gosh, after three hours in the nursery, she latched on and nursed lazily, and a couple more times, but then hardly nursed at all. When I left the first day, I thought nursing was a go, even though it was taking a long time. The next morning, the mother told me that her doctor said the baby's billirubins were too high, and her weight was too low, so she told her NOT to breastfeed, but rather bottle feed. The doc also said that she should bottle feed every three hours. I feed my babies every 2 hours, and I am just shocked that the doc would say that. In fact, one of my babies nursed every 1 hours for the first few days I had her.
My clients baby is looking week, skin is loose, and I am so concerned, I had a dream in the middle of the night on Thursday night that the baby was in danger, and felt I must help the mom move to feeding more often. I am so tired right now that I am not saying all that is on my mind, so forgive me. But I really believe that the baby having been born at week 38, just can't breastfeed, and has had a very dangerous start. I am so angry I want to bite something. And this family is having such a difficult time caring for this little baby, under too much stress and I have never seen anything like this.
Finally, after getting more comfortable with the mom, I asked her why she didn't want a vaginal birth (she called me 1 week before the scheduled c-section) and she told me that she was afraid of having a painful vaginal birth. She made this face which looked as tho she would never forget this pain.
I can't work with clients like this in the future. I think I will draw up a natural vaginal birth contract with future clients, that I will only support a c-section in the event that the mom has an emergency.
About her being in the nursery, the baby was kept from her while she was being sewn up, cleaned up and recovered, and then later the nursing staff kept saying they were doing this or that with the baby, but actually it wouldn't take three damn hours to do these things, but lead my clients (who are from India) to believe they were working on the baby the entire time she was in their care.
Finally, I pushed the dad to go and get the baby, and finally they brought her out. I nearly cried at the sight of a baby who was born from her mothers body, but didn't SEE her mom for the first three hours after birth. I can't even type anymore, I am so upset.
Vegetarian Hindu, mother to L,P and R.