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#31 of 35 Old 01-18-2008, 12:32 AM - Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone for your replies! I am hoping that this couple will be patient with me and help me learn!

BTW, I you MDC mamas!!

~Amy~ Wife to my best friend Brandon. Mama to my sweet girl Eden (11/6/06) and my little man Theo (6/25/09)
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I think the Bradley people are stuck in the 1960s and refuse to acknowledge that not everyone these days is married and having a baby. They refuse to get with the times and realize that their insistence on using this term offends people--at one point during our training Jay Hathaway tried to refer to "animal husbandry" as the reason behind the term. Whatever. The entire organization is so backwards I'm surprised they're still around.

I use moms and support persons in this current class. I have a few military moms in my class whose husbands are deployed so I don't need to remind them that "dad" won't be there for their birth...but their doulas will! In past classes everyone has been together, so I've used mom and dad.

I'm a Bradley educator and the "husband coached childbirth" thing annoys the living crap out of me! I changed it to "partner supported childbirth."
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I think partner would be fine for us. Please also remember that, even as an obstetrician myself, my partner and I are accustomed to people not knowing what to say or how to say it to us. I think most same-sex couples just appreciate the effort. We don't always know the right words either. And, we have "partners" at work and are "partners" at home and this creates all sorts of confusion in conversation all the time- you just have to laugh.
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Just a note, the movie "It's my body, my baby, my birth" features a lesbian couple! It's kind of an intro to midwifery care in general, so it might be a good option for those of you who want a more inclusive class.
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sooo, last week i had a same sex couple,teaching at the clinic,and had met them before, used the word partner most of the time they seemed fine with it, the only problem i thought they were loving towards each other and it seemed some of the other clients just realized in class that they were a couple, meanwhile i just go ahead and teach, they allneed the same info that i am teaching. just interesting to notice how comfortable i have come with this,and how i notice others reactions of people are different.
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