TLCdoula,
<Wow, two hours is a long time to spend with a perspective client. What in the world do you discuss for that long? >
Yes, it is a long time, however I have had a 99 % hire rate. I did have one family who chose do the hospital birth with their mother, and were still thinking about it when they talked to me. Honestly, I take time now (since that client) to make sure that the couple would likely hire me, and I would likely sign them on, before I come to their home.
As for what I discuss? First I answer all of their questions as far as what I can do for them.
Next I listen to their birth stories with other children (if they have given birth before).
Then I share the policy of Informed Consent / Refusal in the hospital. And many questions pop up in concern to this.
I also share information about prevention and early detection of pre-term labor and preeclampsia (I experienced pre-term labor, and no one had ever told me what the warning signs were, or how to prevent this (of course some cases can't be prevented) like keeping up your consumption of proteins and staying hydrated. I added this after getting a call from a woman who made an appointment with me. She told me that she was in the middle of a miscarriage and couldn't make it. How sad. Having experienced birth loss myself, I like to include information.
Also, talk to them about natural childbirth preparation, local support (LLL), and national support (MDC) ect.
I believe that they should get something out of my visit, or both of us have wasted our time.
As for the $100, again as everyone has said, "way too much". I wouldn't mark this doula off your list entirely. Also, she could be just getting started and have no idea that she should have a free consult. Talking it out is the best way to work through that.
And when looking for a doula, in addition to matching your personality and workability, think about the final outcome. Does your doula have a track record with hospital births, VBAC's, or other things that you need? Can she honor your request during the birth? Do you think that she can truely help you to avoid a c-section? Will she help you (if needed) to latch your baby on after the birth, and assist you in ways to keep that breastfeeding relationship going? Does she have community contacts for new parents? Does she have a back up for your birth?
I think focusing on what she can do for you and your partner on the day of your birth, is far more important, than IF she charges for a consult. And definately if you don't like your doulas fees, ASK her to give you reduced fees (if you can't afford to pay, or like her but find her to be the most expensive).
Many doulas will work with families who don't have the resources for paying, or allow the family to pay out the fee's over several weeks or months. Some doulas accept Paypal, so you could use your credit card. The point is that I don't know a single doula who wouldn't work with you in some way to make this situation just right, so that she could be at your birth.
Good luck in wading the waters!