Is it possible that you're not emotionally ready to let go of the baby/pregnancy?
When I m/c'ed, we saw no heartbeat, but nothing really happened until I laid down and came to terms with what had happened and what was going to happen. I told her that I would miss her, that I loved her, but that we both knew that now wasn't the right time for her to join our family, and that when that time came, I would welcome her spirit back with us, should she decide to return.
Sure, I'd wanted to be over with it ASAP too, but I was still upset about it, and while I wanted it over, there was a part of me who didn't really want to accept that this was over. Until that night.
I let her go the next day in the bathtub and later buried her at the beach.
I know, it might sound hokey...but I really feel that it worked for me.
Having said all that-I would opt for 2-3 rounds of cytotec before going for the D&C. In fact, I think I'd avoid the D&C until I began to show signs of an infection. That's just me though.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Kelly, mama (12yoDS), doula, RN, and writer.
There's no where you can be that isn't where you were meant to be, its easy