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a client's baby died during birth or shortly there after. I don't think she'd had something like this happen before. Not only is she my midwife she's also my friend.

As a birth worker what things would be or have been helpful for you?

Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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My advice is to be there for her. Just letting her talk and listening is important.

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a client's baby died during birth or shortly there after. I don't think she'd had something like this happen before. Not only is she my midwife she's also my friend.

As a birth worker what things would be or have been helpful for you?
One of our clients had a late trimester loss recently. In honor of her, I bought some books on grief and loss for our lending library.
And as Beth said, just being there for her and offering to listen is the best thing you can do.

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what helped me a lot when I lost a baby (as a mw - not my baby) was the story of a jewish tradition that says there are some souls who are very close to god; they only need to live for a short time to complete all their karma, and in that time they do a lot of healing work on the planet.
these souls are always born to very special parents, and they come into the place where their healing is most needed.
we are very blessed to meet these souls, even if only for a fleeting moment.

Just be there for your friend, lots of hugs.

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