Figure out what you want most, and what things you're constrained by (you'll probably need a lawyer in your county, think about your budget, etc.). Is time of the essence? Are there a lot of assets to get into a pissing match over? Is he going to fight you on custody? What's most important to you? See if you can get free consultations with a few family practice lawyers. Tell them your situation, the kind obstacles you anticipate facing from your ex, and your priorities. My uncle, who is a lawyer, said to get someone is doesn't go into things "looking" for a fight, but who understands how to play hardball and is totally willing to do it if things get ugly. Nice doesn't win points when it comes to a tough legal battle (which you hopefully will not have to face).