I just discovered that both xh and his gf, the same one he left me for, have profiles on a popular internet site (not a dating site). I discovered that a female friend of xh's (different one than gf) had a link from his profile to her blog, and had a blog entry that contained dd1's name. I am not happy about her name being used online, and I am also wondering what I should do about broaching the topic with xh and his various female friends... his gf, it seems, likes to post pictures of herself posing with various people's children. She is due to meet dds in January (though I just discovered also, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they were together before he left me... I never had solid proof until now, just intuition). I am not comfortable with my dds pictures being online, and I'm not comfortable with their names being used either. Their names in connection with our location are a dead give-away, because they don't have common common names for this area...
Also, how do I deal with it when I see gf, starting very soon? I had been under the impression for awhile that xh had moved on, and I was relieved because I had no emotion whatsoever about a woman who I'd never met before... however, as it turns out, he's still with the gf he left me for, a woman who went out to lunch with me while xh and I were still married and assured me that she and xh were "just friends." She makes me want to hurl. And I have to be honest - I can't even look at xh, and I usually don't during our exchanges. The main reason for this is so that he can't make intimidating gestures or facial expressions or mouth things to me, but also I just can't stand the sight of him. I hope to move beyond this, but I'm trying to imagine not looking at xh and his gf and how that is going to come across to the girls... I am truly hoping that due to the verbal abuse that has been happening that I can get a court order to do an exchange through a third party, but it's going to take some work and creativity because there is no agency here that provides those services.... so we'll see.
Also, how do I deal with it when I see gf, starting very soon? I had been under the impression for awhile that xh had moved on, and I was relieved because I had no emotion whatsoever about a woman who I'd never met before... however, as it turns out, he's still with the gf he left me for, a woman who went out to lunch with me while xh and I were still married and assured me that she and xh were "just friends." She makes me want to hurl. And I have to be honest - I can't even look at xh, and I usually don't during our exchanges. The main reason for this is so that he can't make intimidating gestures or facial expressions or mouth things to me, but also I just can't stand the sight of him. I hope to move beyond this, but I'm trying to imagine not looking at xh and his gf and how that is going to come across to the girls... I am truly hoping that due to the verbal abuse that has been happening that I can get a court order to do an exchange through a third party, but it's going to take some work and creativity because there is no agency here that provides those services.... so we'll see.