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#61 of 72 Old 03-09-2009, 04:16 AM
 
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I've been thinking of you and will continue to! Thanks for letting us know how it has been for you. Many hugs and healing vibes to you.
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I'm so glad you updated mama.

Sending lots of strength and love during a difficult time.

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Many hugs to you during this time. I wish continued strength on your journey. Big hugs to you.
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Big, big warm understanding hugs for you bananabug

Take the time to heal from your marriage before you move on with someone else. Make a list of all the qualities you would like in a new partner and then work on growing that way yourself. ~mandib50
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My aunt aborted a baby she wanted to "save her marriage" and six months later that man left her for another woman anyway.
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Just read the update. Hugs from me and lots of good vibes your way!!
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nope and in a situation such as you have described, i would be out so fast that his head would spin. for everything you have been through. i know you will make it through this as you are strong and deserve happiness.

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I don't think I could ever forgive a man who would give me that kind of ultimatum. I also think it's normal for you to question EVERYTHING right now, your feelings about every issue are going to swing around, I think that's normal.
Given an ultimatum like that would make me leave so quick. I'm so sorry that he is doing that to you. I just read your update. I think what he did to you is absolutely beyond the pale, and the fact that he will not get a vasectomy would make me very suspicious at this point.

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Nope -- funny, I wouldn't have avoided getting into a bad marriage either. It's been a horrible three years and I really don't see how my life can ever be good again (yes, I'm at that stage)... but have learned sooo so much.

I'm happy with who I've become...or who I am becoming once I get my life back in order.
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