Oh, and by the way, Jazzybaby
I'm kind of the most active dater (
: nice to meet you, mam) on this thread these days, trying to go through a record of how many Finnish men I can tell my MDC single mama friends about in one season.
Enjoy my ramblings and Bridget-Jones-esque man-journalings on here....
Artlover86, did you talk to the guy about the bedroom-intrustion-misunderstanding? Did you ever get rid of that suicidal guy?
JustAnotherBrick, did you come clean with Sir-Texts-A-Lot? If he's leaving soon, is it worth it to get your heart all entangled up? He's the FIRST guy whose even caught your eye out there, on your FIRST girls' night out since having a kid...remember he won't be the last.
Trust me on that.
AKA_PI, I'm sorry about the situation you found yourself in after two months of having such high hopes and being so happy you had re-discovered this guy and thought it was going to be hot & heavy and passionate and then, .....face-to-face, splat! on the floor with lack of IRL chemistry. I can totally relate after Amnesty Guy. We had quite high expectation after ten days of great phone calls, very spicy emails and texts and chats, and then..... huge first date on Valentine's Day which I cooked for him and totally got nervous and excited about, in the days preceeding it, in anticipation and then..... he's just not that into me and walks away the next morning and never looks back.
Not that I was that into *him*, live, either, but....
: It just happens. These online things need to transition to the face-to-face real world the sooner the better, IMHO, so as not to waste time and get high hopes for nuttin'.
rubelin, how are you doing? Still sick? Sweet Man transitioning into charming-the-pants-right-off-you-Man? Maybe he will? You're the 4-man-planner, right? I can't remember which of ya'll was....
: But how's that working? Quarter men? Give them nicknames so I can keep up.
Seie, I am glad you are feeling like you are walking forward with this man with eyes wide open, and are willing to just take things one step at a time, despite some slightly different pacing/frequency styles and needs. It's never perfect, right?
Maybe when he senses you are backing off and not pushing him at all, he'll start to realize that actually he starts to need you more and more frequently and you can step back and let him do the pursuing more & more and worries about someone else sweeping you off your feet if he leaves you alone for 3 weeks on end, etc..... You'll feel so much more secure about his interest when he is wooing you more, and picking up the pace a bit in terms of frequency and overlapping one another's lives, etc, and if you 'back off' for some weeks or months and he DOESN'T seem to notice or care, then perhaps just coming straight to him with sort of a 'these are my needs, this is what i want from a relationsihp' talk and letting him decide, would be the right way to go. And let him either come through with an arrangement that truly works for you, or let him go. That's just my two cents, take it for what it's worth!
Seems like putting pressure on him right this minute just might kill it all to pieces, and the ideal situation would be for him to gradually vamp things up on his own without you forcing his hand, for him and
for you feeling more secure about his intentions, and the only way for him to do it on his own is for you to back off and let him take the lead.