Originally Posted by Leta
People say this to you? Holy Cats. I would never, ever say that. Maybe because I have a couple close friends who are single moms? I dunno.
Of course partnered parents don't know what it's like to be a single parent! Sheesh.
My dear sweet momma advised me to sign up for a full load of classes (I quit my career of 10 years and went back to college 3 months before I found out I was preggers) for the term that started 2 weeks after ds was due. I was pretty clueless at the time. Fortunately one of my professors told me that was crazy since I'm a single mom and there would be no one to hold ds while I did the dishes, much less homework, and I probably wouldn't want to leave him while I went to class.....and 2 weeks to get back to normal after giving birth IF he came on time? Soo glad I didn't do what mom advised, especially since ds was 3 weeks late!
She found out I dropped most of my classes when ds was three weeks old and was a bit put out and told me I was being lazy and irresponsible and she knew what was possible 'cause my dad was working 12 hr days when her first child was born..... It took a lot of self control not to blow up at her, but I'm glad I held my tongue just because she's been a great support in every other way, but it was really frustrating to hear because she was a sahm for crying out loud and she wanted me to leave my baby in the first month of his life to go to class? Sheesh.