This is one of many srange developments happening this past week or so. I dont get it, what the hell does he want? This week's stuff:
Last Wednesday, ds was supposed to spend his first overnight away from me, with stbx. Wednesday am, ds woke up at 5am vomiting. I told stbx that he was sick, and we would have to wait on the overnight. I didn't feel comfortable about the overnight anyway, and no way was I okay with it while ds was sick - his first stomach bug ever. Every time he threw up, he was scared and crying, clinging, and wanting to nurse. Stbx refused to allow me to keep my sick chld with me. No, he said, I'm coming to get him as planned. In fact, he didnt believe me that ds was sick. He said, "I find it odd that today, of all days, he's suddenly sick". He knew I was reluctant about the overnight, and felt it was too soon for ds.
For a number of reaosns, I dont think it looks good for me to withhold visitation from stbx right now, until we get things completely court ordered. So, I relented on the daytime visit, and told stbx that wewould see how ds felt later that day. If he seemed to be better by evening, we woud go ahead as planned, and have ds stay the night. Well, lo and behold, stbx called around 3 pm, and said, "Boy, his stomach's really upset today".
No, really? Apparently, ds had vomited several times. I could hear him crying. My heart was hurting for my child. Stbx said ds wouldnt keep down any water, even sips. I tried to talk him into letting me go get ds. I told him he needed to nurse, and he needed his Mama. He's never been sick like this before, on top of never being away form me so long in the first place. Stbx said he would wait til later, he didnt want me to come get him. I told him to keep me updated. Stbx called at 5:30 pm, ds whimpering in the background. He was still vomiting, and had diarrhea. He said he thought ds would feel better with me for the night and we should do the overnight another night. But if he "let" me come get ds, he didn't want to hear anything accusatory later on from me, such as, "you couldn't even take care of him when he was sick". I assured him I would do no such thing, I appreciated him calling me, it was the best thing for ds to spend the night with me while he was sick, and we would postpone the overnight. I went and got him.
Fast forward to Friday. Stbx calls in the am, supposedly to find out how ds is doing. I told him "better" and stbx goes off on this rant about how HE'S sick, throwing up, feels mierable, whine, whine. Cant get off the couch, whine, whine. Then made some comment about ds "doing" this to him.
Oh, I am SO SORRY for you. I told you Wednesady morning that he was sick, and you chose to ignore the fact, at ds's expense. And now you want me to FEEL BAD for you because your son "made" you sick? You poor thing, you are SUCH a victim. Wah!
Ds was fussing in the background, stbx asked what was wrong with him. I said, "He's sick! His stomach hurts! His ass is chapped form the torrential diarrhea. And he's ready for a nap. We have to go. Hope you feel better soon. Call me Saturday if you cant take him for the scheduled visitation". About 2 hours later, stbx called again, his time to supposedly talk to ds. Ok. Ds is one, he doesnt get the phone thing, but whatever. I handed the phone over. Ds gave it back to me about 1 minute later. I told stbx that ds was done, and we hung up. Stbx called back AGAIN that night at 6pm. Every time I answer, he goes on a spiel about how crappy he feels, etc. Then as an aftethought, he asks to talk to ds.
By 10 am this morning, he had already called twice, more of the same. Whining about himself. He did tell me that I should bring ds to the hospital if he has a fever, because he should have antibiotics. Right. I cant think of anything better for my son's upset stomach to load it full of antibiotics. Give me a break. I told him we needed to go. He said he would call later to talk to ds. ??????
What the hell?! Does anyone have an ex that does this? Is he calling because someone else is right there, and it makes him look like the concerned father to call 40 billion times a day to check on is son? Is he calling because he wants my sympathy? Is he calling because he's lonely, and just has no one else to whine to? I'm so annoyed. I'm not answering any more phone calls. He can see ds during his scheduled Monday visitation if he's feeling better by then. He had mentioned taking ds tomorrow because he missed today, but No. I dont think so.
Thanks. Just needed to vent.
Last Wednesday, ds was supposed to spend his first overnight away from me, with stbx. Wednesday am, ds woke up at 5am vomiting. I told stbx that he was sick, and we would have to wait on the overnight. I didn't feel comfortable about the overnight anyway, and no way was I okay with it while ds was sick - his first stomach bug ever. Every time he threw up, he was scared and crying, clinging, and wanting to nurse. Stbx refused to allow me to keep my sick chld with me. No, he said, I'm coming to get him as planned. In fact, he didnt believe me that ds was sick. He said, "I find it odd that today, of all days, he's suddenly sick". He knew I was reluctant about the overnight, and felt it was too soon for ds.
For a number of reaosns, I dont think it looks good for me to withhold visitation from stbx right now, until we get things completely court ordered. So, I relented on the daytime visit, and told stbx that wewould see how ds felt later that day. If he seemed to be better by evening, we woud go ahead as planned, and have ds stay the night. Well, lo and behold, stbx called around 3 pm, and said, "Boy, his stomach's really upset today".
No, really? Apparently, ds had vomited several times. I could hear him crying. My heart was hurting for my child. Stbx said ds wouldnt keep down any water, even sips. I tried to talk him into letting me go get ds. I told him he needed to nurse, and he needed his Mama. He's never been sick like this before, on top of never being away form me so long in the first place. Stbx said he would wait til later, he didnt want me to come get him. I told him to keep me updated. Stbx called at 5:30 pm, ds whimpering in the background. He was still vomiting, and had diarrhea. He said he thought ds would feel better with me for the night and we should do the overnight another night. But if he "let" me come get ds, he didn't want to hear anything accusatory later on from me, such as, "you couldn't even take care of him when he was sick". I assured him I would do no such thing, I appreciated him calling me, it was the best thing for ds to spend the night with me while he was sick, and we would postpone the overnight. I went and got him.
Fast forward to Friday. Stbx calls in the am, supposedly to find out how ds is doing. I told him "better" and stbx goes off on this rant about how HE'S sick, throwing up, feels mierable, whine, whine. Cant get off the couch, whine, whine. Then made some comment about ds "doing" this to him.
Oh, I am SO SORRY for you. I told you Wednesady morning that he was sick, and you chose to ignore the fact, at ds's expense. And now you want me to FEEL BAD for you because your son "made" you sick? You poor thing, you are SUCH a victim. Wah!
Ds was fussing in the background, stbx asked what was wrong with him. I said, "He's sick! His stomach hurts! His ass is chapped form the torrential diarrhea. And he's ready for a nap. We have to go. Hope you feel better soon. Call me Saturday if you cant take him for the scheduled visitation". About 2 hours later, stbx called again, his time to supposedly talk to ds. Ok. Ds is one, he doesnt get the phone thing, but whatever. I handed the phone over. Ds gave it back to me about 1 minute later. I told stbx that ds was done, and we hung up. Stbx called back AGAIN that night at 6pm. Every time I answer, he goes on a spiel about how crappy he feels, etc. Then as an aftethought, he asks to talk to ds.
By 10 am this morning, he had already called twice, more of the same. Whining about himself. He did tell me that I should bring ds to the hospital if he has a fever, because he should have antibiotics. Right. I cant think of anything better for my son's upset stomach to load it full of antibiotics. Give me a break. I told him we needed to go. He said he would call later to talk to ds. ??????
What the hell?! Does anyone have an ex that does this? Is he calling because someone else is right there, and it makes him look like the concerned father to call 40 billion times a day to check on is son? Is he calling because he wants my sympathy? Is he calling because he's lonely, and just has no one else to whine to? I'm so annoyed. I'm not answering any more phone calls. He can see ds during his scheduled Monday visitation if he's feeling better by then. He had mentioned taking ds tomorrow because he missed today, but No. I dont think so.
Thanks. Just needed to vent.