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I am the one who pressured him/insisted that he just meet me for a harmless coffee, and he ended up letting me talk him into it, on the basis that it only has been a couple of dates with her and they are not actually 'in a relationship.' But when I insisted to him that I would like his undivided dating attention he agreed wholeheartedly that he will talk to her first, and we'll continue after that.
That seems like a lot of insisting.
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Butterfly, I'm confused, did you and Clark Kent end up dancing or not? Either way, I am glad glad glad he called, and it sounds great! And like just what you needed (and deserve!).

Had drinks with Socrates on Friday night, had a nice enough time -- he's cute and intelligent but I didn't get much of a read on how into me he was. But he's been hard to read all along -- I'd think he was going to flake out, and then he'd turn up again so....

I was going to wait him out, but I decided, whatever, that's just not really me. So I just sent him a short note, saying I had a nice time, hope he had a good rest of the weekend.

So, we'll see. My mom has offered to babysit for me again next Fri night, so I need to get busy lining someone up -- I get to go out so rarely, I like to do some decent email screening so I don't waste a sitter on dud date
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ugh. remember my date on friday? the nice but no chemistry guy?

well.

since friday night he's been bombarding my email inbox with insane garbage. apparently he loves eugenics (the forced sterilization of minorities, etc) hates multiculturalism, and thinks that obama is part of a vast conspiracy to destroy the world, among other offensive *@^%@*^$(.

um, i'm a socialist, feminist, activist, environmentalist, social work student. i may be white but that doesn't make me a supremacist. i've blocked him in every way possible, but i'm still icked out. : i can't believe that people like him exist. gross.
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ButterflyMom ~ I am not really feeling as positive about the new FB guy as the others. He was on there while a girl he is "casually" dating was out of town (so bored when she is away means he spends a good amount of time with her) and he wants to see her touch base with her before he even meets you for coffee? It is giving me the feeling maybe you should let him be the one to court you....... and you move slow to make sure he knows what he wants. He could very well just be a respectful man who wants to be honest which is of HUGE value but he could also be running game.

Sugarmoon ~ Who are you thinking about going out with? Someone old, someone new? I can relate on not being able to read if the guy is into you or not, it can be so much more complex than the book makes it seem.

Josybear ~ I am sorry you are had to experience someone like that. Some are not ready for change..... luckily you know this now and not 10 years from now. There are great men out there and you sound like quite a catch so throw that one back to sea (hopefully with a warning label, LOL)!

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This week I saw 2ndHusband we watched a long movie mid-day, danced and took a nap together. We were going to head to the movies after our nap but my friend sent me a text saying dd needed me due to an allergic food reaction.

That said 2ndHusband said he would really like to see more of me and hates going so long without seeing me. Apparently very early on, I told him that he could not come to my place or meet dd, I don't recall saying this but it's not surprising that I would....

I just looked at the calendar and my time with him has increased from once every blue moon since October/November to seeing him about once every three weeks since the beginning of May but I agree it would be nice to see eachother more consistently. It's just work arranging childcare and I am not ready to bring dd along. Not because of 2ndHusband per se but because I don't feel the relationship has at all reached that point.... But it would be nice to find a way to see him maybe once a week, I just have to figure out the where (I live in my parents' guest house but hope that changes soon) and childcare for dd.

In general I have to figure out the logistics of getting out on a regular basis both to date and to spend time with my girl friends.

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That seems like a lot of insisting.
Hey this guy is a catch and a half, by my standards. I wanted to toss my hat in the ring for competition for him, if the field was still indeed open. Who wouldn't? He was reluctant because he wanted to be sure that chick-he's-gone-out-with-a-couple-of-times knew explicitly that he was seeing other women. Probably she assumed he hadn't been since the day they met because he works so damned much.

He was bored and on the fb app not 'because she was out of town' but because the whole city had shut down and everyone was out at a summer cottage in the countryside for the midsummer holiday but he remained for one day to unwind at home before going to his friend's cabin for a night. But then I guess he got a little bored and was fooling around on fb. I definitely did not get the impression that 'gone out with a couple of times' means they spend a LOT of time together. If I got the impression he was quite the item with this woman I wouldn't have pushed in between. Sounded like it was a recent thing that they've been on a couple of dates and he doesn't spend a LOT of time anywhere except for at work.

Would I really want to date someone that busy? I'm high maintenance.
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That said 2ndHusband said he would really like to see more of me and hates going so long without seeing me.

What about you? How are you feeling about this desire to see you more (is he changing/growing up?) or do you even desire seeing him more?

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Hey this guy is a catch and a half, by my standards. I wanted to toss my hat in the ring for competition for him, if the field was still indeed open. Who wouldn't? He was reluctant because he wanted to be sure that chick-he's-gone-out-with-a-couple-of-times knew explicitly that he was seeing other women. Probably she assumed he hadn't been since the day they met because he works so damned much.

He was bored and on the fb app not 'because she was out of town' but because the whole city had shut down and everyone was out at a summer cottage in the countryside for the midsummer holiday but he remained for one day to unwind at home before going to his friend's cabin for a night. But then I guess he got a little bored and was fooling around on fb. I definitely did not get the impression that 'gone out with a couple of times' means they spend a LOT of time together. If I got the impression he was quite the item with this woman I wouldn't have pushed in between. Sounded like it was a recent thing that they've been on a couple of dates and he doesn't spend a LOT of time anywhere except for at work.

Would I really want to date someone that busy? I'm high maintenance.
That adds some clarity but I just don't see why he would need to make certain with her IF it is something that was only a couple times so to me it would be implied. Better safe than sorry so I think that is mature of him to do so.....

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What about you? How are you feeling about this desire to see you more (is he changing/growing up?) or do you even desire seeing him more?

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I adore him and while there is still growing to do on his part there is still a great deal on my end as well just in different ways. Actually one of the best items I like about him is that we can grow together.... which is not the case with my ex or with any of the other men interested in me. 2ndHusband goes out a bit more than I like but it has drastically cut down from what it once was and he always invites me to come... I do want to spend more time with him, I do like both going out and staying in with him but have to find a way to balance my dd needs and my desire to have adult interactions (not just with him but in general).

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Butterfly, I'm confused, did you and Clark Kent end up dancing or not? ext Fri night, so I need to get busy lining someone up -- I get to go out so rarely, I like to do some decent email screening so I don't waste a sitter on dud date

No we didn't dance. And if you need any help email screening, I'll help!
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Josy, ugh, I think that beats suicidal guy as worst ever! Sorry. Well, no where to go from here buts up, right? Try again, darlin!

Butterfly, I think Loveohm has some good points, but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt ..what's the update? Are you hearing from him regularly?

So, I sent that very neutral email to Socrates, and got....a completely neutral unreadable email back.....I think I'm going to have to go with 'he's not into me' unless he demonstrates otherwise.

blergh. So...for the coming weekend....maybe I'll try to go hiking/canoeing with local guy and set up an evening date with someone new, I've gotten a few emails on match that I haven't answered yet -no one terribly compelling -- one who sounds great, great profile, great email, but not attractive..why *is* it always like that! But, I'll man-up an answer the emails and see who comes out on top and gets to take me out on Friday night
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Josy, ugh, I think that beats suicidal guy as worst ever! Sorry. Well, no where to go from here buts up, right? Try again, darlin!
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what's the update? Are you hearing from him regularly?.............



But, I'll man-up an answer the emails and see who comes out on top and gets to take me out on Friday night

Nothing today. :

And get to work on those emails 'cus I wanna hear gossip from you this weekend while I'm home with the kiddos and after they fall asleep, I'll be ready to dissect every detail on fb chat!
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So I went out with Smart & Sporty tonight. He is a nice guy. Intelligent and honest. Reliable. It just shines through in his words and actions. We went to a nice restaurant on the sea, outdoor terrace seating... and then tried to go bowling but it was closed. We went to another restaurant for drinks and deserts and ended up sitting for two hours talking about favorite movies and other things. I had just seen The Reader yesterday and it sparked conversation about movies in general. Afterwards he walked me home. He really listens when I talk and ...I guess I like who I am, reflected back at me in his face, but.... I can't say that I am crazy about him or even know his true guard-let-down self yet.... I just like him, and admire him a bit. It's all very nice and pleasant. The kiss good night was long and I liked the way he wrapped his arms around me ....crossed them behind my back to then wrap his hands around my waist with the 'wrong hands' on each side, and it felt very encompassing. But the french kiss was nice at times and a little dull at times ("now he's circling my tongue with his tongue counterclockwise one..two...three...four...((how many rotations will this move last?))...five....six....ok now he's moving to the upper lip, this is a bit better......") with inner commentary reminding me that this is what passion is not.

Clark Kent not contacting me with update? argh. :
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So I'm really having second thoughts about my whole situation with SCG. I think it would be great to be friends with him, but now I'm getting super nervous about even seeing him again. I suppose I'm still jealous he invited 21yo gorgeous intern to go surfing.
I feel as if I'm 'forcing' things...even though he WAS the one who invited me rollerblading last week.....kind of....he just mentioned he wanted to go Tuesday night and that he'd give me news. In a later e-mail he mentioned that he would have really liked for me to go rollerblading with him.

Anyways, I think I screwed things up a bit, because I sent an answer back, in French, which seems a bit short (in tone) and not very nice. The story is that he wrote that at first (maybe when he met me) he thought that maybe since I was from California I knew how to surf, but then dismissed it as a stereotype. Then he said, however now that I know you're a Californian who surfs that changes everything.
My answer was this: (translated)
Having lived in California, you should know that there are people who know how to surf, and surfers (how are very very good). I do know how to surf, but am not so great, and it's been a few years since I have done it. But I love surfing.
What changes now that you know I am a Californian who knows how to surf?
As for my availability this week, June 24 is a holiday, so maybe Thursday or Friday would be better.

That's it. I don't know. I know he isn't a guy who writes a lot...but it just seems like he's answering at my insistance or something. I feel like I'm pushing everything, and don't even really know what I want with this guy. At least friendship, but perhaps I'm just having an 'all men are scum' day today.

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Holly, I think you're doing fine It all sounds very normal to me, don't sweat it. But, ya know, it is also okay to give up on it too, if it is giving you more stress than it's worth.

Butterfly, sorry about the lousy kissing. There's not much worse than a kiss that is passion-less enough to allow you to be thinking about while doing it, yeah?

So, y'all. What do I do about Socrates? I was thinking, let it go, but...email is sort of like tag, is it not? So if I don't respond to him, then there is a chance that he thinks it was me who dropped it. But, I don't want to come off as needy.

Holly, feel free to laugh at me here. If this was you, I'd be all "Girly! you have nothing to loose!!!! Write the dern email!"

So, I'm thinking of writing back, still kinda neutral/chatty, then saying something about the music they have at hte place we met on Thursday nights and saying "let me know if you want to try it out sometime".

And then I'll really leave it alone, unless I hear from him.

OR (ororororororor),

I could just be *me* and write to him and say:

I enjoyed your company, I'd like to see you again, if you're up for it. But I'm no good at dating "games" and would rather just hear from you that you're not interested in going out again, if that is the case. My feelings won't be hurt

So, what do you think, chickies?

option A, option B, or be quiet and wait to hear from him?
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Girly! you have nothing to loose!!!! Write the dern email!
Be yourself. The music idea is good, but it would be nice to also say 'I enjoyed your company, I'd like to see you again, if you're up for it.'


Well, if writing e-mails comes across as needy, then this guy (SCG) has got to think I'm a total basketcase. I don't really want to drop it....but am thinking that maybe I am making a big deal out of nothing. I can go do something with him...have a good time, and see what happens. He hasn't given me a phone number nor a personal e-mail address...which could be nothing...but I think he might just feel sorry for me (he went thorough the same thing last year) and is just too nice to ignore me. Maybe I should wait until after July 1st? but since it isn't really 'going out' together, I don't feel bad about doing that this last week I'm still co-habitating with exh. He knows all about the surfing...just not that it's a guy I'd be going with. I told him ex-work colleagues.

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I hope this isn't too off-topic but it occurred to me that you mamas might be the best ones to help me out. I am not dating and have no interest in it... and luckily for me I live in a small town with not a lot of options, so it's usually fine. However, I am doing work this summer that involves being around a ton of people from out of town... and last week I was pestered by a guy who would not leave me alone. When I finally told him I wasn't available, he apologized for making me uncomfortable, and then asked for my phone number and said he'd like to get to know me better! So, I'm dreading the coming weeks... and I'm wondering what is the best way of being firm but polite in not accepting that kind of attention? Thanks!
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One Art, honestly, if he keeps bugging you, I'd suggest you approach your supervisor about it. At the very least, refuse to engage. This means NO conversation other than what you just have to have. (I don't know how things are with you, but most places I've worked we all wound up chatting in the downtime.) Eventually he should get the message.

Of course, the last time I was hounded by a dude I had no interest in, I went and hid with a gay couple.

Sugarmoon, I'd def. go with e-mail option B. But I'm so not into games it's funny.

Holly, I think you're doing fine. Just see where it goes. Maybe it won't be anywhere. If you can manage not to invest too much worry in it, one way or another you'll likely manage to enjoy yourself.

Me...I think I was hit on on Facebook tonight. I suck so bad at interpreting things I sometimes wonder how I managed to stumble into a marriage at all! I accepted a friend request earlier today from a fellow whose name I recognized (but it's a pair of names that are extremely common around here; the equivalent of Mike Sanchez) vaguely but whom I couldn't place. He said we went to high school together. But he graduated from a different high school a year earlier. So I don't know.

Anyway, we chatted a little bit and he was a wee bit flirtatious. I think. Or maybe he was just more familiar than I expect from someone I admitted to not remembering. He lives in Portland now. We talked about our schedules & he asked if I go out a lot (I don't. I never did). Made a comment about "Note to self, don't ask Sabra to go out when you're home." Meh. I dunno. I'm not even really interested in him. It just highlights my complete social ineptitude.

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sabra, I totally relate, I am so rarely clear on if I've been hit on or not. I'm gradually getting better, but I'm still mostly clueless.

I've got a few new contenders in the mix:

One, from match, who I'll call the Russian. He is smart, for sure, is a professor at a local Ivy league college, eloquent, and sounds pretty interesting. He is very recently separated though, and so...? But he responded well the the very direct email I decided to send to both of the guys who wrote to me today, addressing the fact that I have kids, and how that limits my dating time, and that I don't do dating "games" and require clear, honest communication.

So I"m definitely intruiged. And, oh, he really is russian, came to the states almost 20 years ago though.

The other, seems very easy to relate to, also smart and interesting, but sadly not so cute. I'm hoping it is just a weird picture, but if it's the one he chose to put on match...he hasn't responded yet to my hard-ball email though, so we'll see. I dont' have a name for him yet, we'll wait to see if he amounts to anything.

I still haven't written back to Socrates. I'll do it before I go to sleep tonight.

I wrote to All-American boy (had coffee with him about a month ago) after running into an old friend of mine who is (get ready to try to follow this) the ex-boyfriend of A-A boy's ex-girlfriend. My friend and A-A boy each have a child with her.

Anyway, my friend said A-A boy was amazingly good with his dd, and bent over backwards to keep things smooth and positive for both kids, AND apparently makes loads of money. So, like the shallow wench that I am, I decided to contact him again. I heard back, wrote back, but now nothing..

There are a few others in the pike, but not worth talking about here yet.

I don't know though. I'm still pretty stuck on what I had, or thought I had, I guess is more accurate, with Complications, and I may need to do some more work on letting go of that -- I can't keep approaching every new guy/situation as an opportunity to recreate what that was, I need to let the new things be new, ya know?

Boy, I sure can ramble for a girl who hardly ever actually goes out!



Loveohm, I'm not ready to give up on 2nd Husband yet --the direct communication about what is going on and what each of you needs is good -- it is so tricky to figure it out with the kids -- we need the time with the guy to figure out if it is going to be serious enough to let them meet the kids, but with the kids, there is almost no time to do that!
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Sugarmoon,
Have you written to Socrates yet?

Butterflymom, where have you been these past few days? In whose arms have you been resting (or not.....)?

I wrote another email to SCG today....probably came off as totally desparate or bored, but just said I wanted to go do something tomorrow as the weather will be the best all week (30°C!!! REally hot!). Anyways, also mentioned that I hope he will tell me if I'm being too pushy, because I don't him to feel any sort of obligation (or something to that nature). Also wrote a PS that I was having a slow day at work and had too much time to think (faux pas I know!)
He responded: Tommorow isn't good for me, as I will have my son. Thursday would be perfect. The hot weather tomorrow should warm up the water for Thursday.
I then sent him yet another wmail just saying, OK foir Thursday....have a nice holiday tomorrow (it's a holiday tomorrow here in QC).
I feel OK about all that....am going to try to forget about him tomorrow and just have a great day off of work with nice weather. Maybe go swimming.
I am no longer obsessing about what will come of all this...it's actually been good for my self-confidence. I STILL don't know why a guy would exchange e-mails and want to do something live with a person he knows is newly single.
Just wanting to be nice? But aren't most men driven by other forces?

Just a side note: tonight I went jogging at 9pm (sport has become my new drug and anti-depressant) and wore a nice fitting shirt and shorts. I got quite a few looks from guys, which felt nice. VERY good for my self-confidence.

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hollycrand, things sound pretty ok. especially turning heads - that feels great

sugarmoon, wow, lady! you're on the ball!

i've been msning a boy nonstop... i really like him. hopefully we're both free this weekend. he's witty and funny and compassionate... yeah. i really hope he's as great in person as he is on msn. if he is, i think i'll take him dancing.
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So much going on in the past couple days

Butterflymom ~ Clark Kent is a hottie but I really wish he was better at communicating.

Sugarmoon ~ I look forward to hearing all about your weekend so keep us updated.

OneArt ~ I would be polite and direct, saying you are not available and don't feel it's appropiate to stay in touch in a personal level --- that said I do think a man could be of value in your life (not so much your dds's lives yet) but this seems like a good place to meet potential males even if just for friendship..... this guy is not the one since you are not interested but stay open he may be there.

Hollycrand ~ Have a great time on your get together with SCG!!!

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Holly!! Hooray for plans with SCG. Can't wait to hear all about it.

Josybear, yeah, yeah, yeah, go dancing

Butterfly....where are you...??

I heard back from both the new guys, got some better pics from the russian, he seems the most promising for this weekend, so far.

I did write to Socrates, late last night. I said "You're a hard one to read, you know.....Let me know if you want to try meeting at (restaurant where we had drinks) again sometime, maybe get some food" (the kitchen closed before we got around to ordering).

So, we'll see. Nothing from him yet, but he's not an email type person, so I'm not anxious about it. And, I"m not anxious about it in general -- if he's not into me, I just want to know, ya know?

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i was up until 4.30 am talking with msn boy last night. i'm utterly infatuated, and so is he. i need to get out of the clouds, but not just yet. i'm going to enjoy this while i can.
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I actually starting talking to someone at work. You know, "talking" like the kids say these days, lol. I was with my XH from 2000-07, so I haven't dated in a LONG time. We are going on our second date on Friday. He is super sweet and he knows I want nothing serious.

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We are going on our second date on Friday. He is super sweet and he knows I want nothing serious.

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Sounds cool.


I am here. : Hi to all those who missed me. It's been an entire 52 hours since I posted.

Am I supposed to date every single day??

Well, today I did. Pretty Fisherman took me out on the town for drinks to a couple of 'it' places in town, but then we decided to go back to his place and watch a movie. During drinks at one of the hot spots he looked at me incredulously and said, "you know, you're really smart, not just hot!" as if noticing for the first time. This is our fourth date and I think he's said it every single time. But then again, sweet that he comments on my insightful brain rather than my bod. We were walking down the street and one guy jumped in and asked to walk with us and asked if we were 'together.' I answered, "Tonight we are!" and Pretty Fisherman looked at me and smiled and said, "Good answer!" and I think it made me remember that he's not looking to be 'together' together but in one night increments together, and......... but then again that's all he's really gonna get from me either.

We went to his place and watched tv and a horrible horror movie (which was good cus we laughed and made fun of it together and had fun doing so) and I really enjoyed his company. He's a sweet guy. I asked him if he was having fun and he commented kind of half-surprised, that, "yeah,, even though we havent¨' done anything special, this has been really fun tonight with you." and I agreed with him that it had been. Then we put on some music and danced. It was nice.

Soooooooo........... the Pretty Fisherman............. who supposedly doesn't want a girlfriend............ : but does Butterfly really want to land on his flower or keep checking out the rest of the garden? Stay tuned, all............ :
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i was up until 4.30 am talking with msn boy last night. i'm utterly infatuated, and so is he. i need to get out of the clouds, but not just yet. i'm going to enjoy this while i can.
Meet him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now.
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I actually starting talking to someone at work. You know, "talking" like the kids say these days, lol. I was with my XH from 2000-07, so I haven't dated in a LONG time. We are going on our second date on Friday. He is super sweet and he knows I want nothing serious.
Welcome Tilia!!!!! Nice to have another mom in the fold! :::

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Am I supposed to date every single day??
Yes you are so we can all live thru your stories!!! Really sounds like a nice day with pretty fisherman but I know a better one is out there for you. Odd question, but do you both like the same style of dancing?

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