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Does anyone else find that after they've reentered the single world (but not dating yet) that they read too much into everything? Any tips on navigating this transition? Hard to explain exactly what I mean...it's like my MIND knows that but I get all overly excited when someone shows me any attention or affection....like a friendly hug or a Facebook message that really don't mean ANYTHING....

Does anyone know what I'm talking about? I think I was married too long and it's messed up my head.
Yes, I know what you are talking about. I had the same exact experience when I first began dating after my X walked.

For me, it came from desperation, loneliness and a need to feel wanted. It was a great sign that I needed to take sometime for myself... I just wasn't ready. I knew that if I was feeling that way, I would make bad choices about any man I met at that time.
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Does anyone else find that after they've reentered the single world (but not dating yet) that they read too much into everything? Any tips on navigating this transition? Hard to explain exactly what I mean...it's like my MIND knows that but I get all overly excited when someone shows me any attention or affection....like a friendly hug or a Facebook message that really don't mean ANYTHING....

Does anyone know what I'm talking about? I think I was married too long and it's messed up my head.
Yes, I read too much into everything. I am trying so hard to go with the flow and just have fun. I am too controlling, I just need to let things happen.

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You have put yourself out there to him, now give him a chance to process, think and pursue.

If he is interested, he WILL pursue it. If a man is truly and genuinely interested, he will do whatever it takes to get with you... even if it takes him out of his comfort zone.
I really feel this way when I am dating, for me he needs to put in the effort and court me! That said, I have accepted that I am pretty "high maintenance" so if they can't start off right then it's only downhill from there for us.....

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I had my first date since my divorce. And it went pretty well! He's a funny, easy-to-talk to, honest guy. We have a lot in common (both vegetarians, both into yoga & running). When we met he had brought me a juice, which I thought was a sweet gesture and much better than hauling flowers around. We just strolled around for 3+ hours. He asked if he could take me out to Indian food sometime this week and I hope that I can work my schedule to accomodate that. The end was awkward though. I'm such a dork and didnt' even think that he might want to kiss me. So, he went in for the kiss while I went in for a hug....but it was a nice hug...and I think he still knows I'm interested. I defintiely would have kissed him if I wasn't such a huge dork
I'm somewhat attracted to him. I didn't think he was super cute, but he was cute enough and had a great personality. So I think I'm into him.
I have a date with a single dad on Wednesday so I think it will be good to be able to compare my feelings about the two.

Woo hoo for getting my first date out of the way and having it be a good time!
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yoginisarah, that sounds really nice!

msn boy has started being sort of weird and i'm just not interested any more. i think i really just liked the excitement of having someone to flirt with more than liking the actual person. i mean, he's nice and we have the same sense of humour, but that's it.

back to keeping an eye out for the right kind of guy...
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There's nothing wrong with just wanting to flirt with someone. Some are take-home boys, some aren't, y'know? My first boyfriend, half the reason I dated him at all was 'cause I and his sister agreed he should never reproduce, and I knew if he was with me he wasn't getting any.

Sarah, your date sounds cool. It's great you had a good time on your first outing. Got you over the hump, if nothing else.

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Josy, did you meet msn boy irl? Not that it matters, if he's being weird, whatever, just curious.

I just pulled my online profile. I'm feeling pretty blah, trying to re-evaluate wth I'm doing. I have a few guys in the email exchange stage still, may or may not meet them, depending where I'm at when I come out of this funk.
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sugarmoon, i was supposed to meet him yesterday but at the last minute something came up, blah blah blah. so we talked on the phone late at night instead, and i realized that i really don't like his voice or the way he talks about people. he was using derogatory terms for gay and handicapped people as insults, and that's not cool with me. then today he was going to make it up to me for cancelling yesterday. he called four times over the course of the day to postpone, and when he finally called to plan tonight's outing i invented some new plans that prevented me from going. i'll just let this one be the one that got away, with no regrets.
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OK....the saga continues.

SCG just sent me an e-mail from his blackberry telling me he went surfing today, and only didn't invite me because the weather service had predicted rain (and since our first surfing experience ended up with pouring rain he didn't want me to associate surfing with bad weather...). He mentions he had noticed something was bothering me that day we were together, but then later disappeared.
He had wanted to respond sooner (to my e-mail) this weekend, but the his email service was down.

Then goes on to say I should tell him when I'd like another 'lesson', it would be his pleasure to give one to me.

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So what does this all mean?
I now finally have my own cellphone number...and perhaps can give it to him. I have his.
I'm really going to take things slow...maybe move first.
I just think it was nice of him to think of me!!

On a side note, what was bothering me the day we went surfing was all the crap I've had to deal with with my ex these past stressful weeks. Feelings of guilt towards my kids, because I'm the one who ended it all several months ago with my ex. Plus I have a boring job.

Do I need to mention that all to him??

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hollycrand, that sounds really hopeful. he thought of you while surfing. that means he's associating one of his favourite activities with you.
as for telling him what was bothering you, i tend to be very vague. most people don't want details. 'just some personal stuff' or 'the chaos that is my life' or whatever might be good enough. just my opinion, i'm not exactly a pro at this, though, obviously.
i say you respond by saying you'd love another surfing lesson and let him pursue you a little. let him set it up.
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By the way, SCG is NOT my only contender at the moment...dd #1 has quite a few good friends at her school whose parents are single parents, and we've started to get to know each other.
I ran into one of the papas at the park this afternoon, who came up to me and asked if I wanted to come with him and Catarina to the wading pool this afternoon. I had noticed this guy before, quite nice and not bad looking, so I said yes. He knows exh and I are separating because his daughter told him. I ended up not talking to him too much at the pool because there were quite a few other mamas there as well. But now at least we know each others' names, our daughters will be going to the same day camp for the next three weeks, and he mentioned that he'd call again to do something with the kids because it's always nice to have company on weekend activities with the kids. I'll call this guy Sunglasses Papa.
Anyways, nothing like having a friend to do things with on the weekend

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I'm somewhat attracted to him. I didn't think he was super cute, but he was cute enough and had a great personality. So I think I'm into him.
sounds like it was a good date, and there's enough potential there to keep moving forwards and see what happens!

sugarmoon, I'm sorry you're in a funk.

LoveOhm, I'm high maintenance too. I so get what you mean about if it doesn't start out right, it's gonna be all downhill from there.
But, I'm kinda like Tilia, uber controlling and having a hard time de-clenching and letting the guy have a chance to show what he's all about and letting thigns go with the flow.

josybear, I'm sorry for the big letdown with msn guy. It soooo often goes that way when you let yourself get carried away with a guy, online. I'm a huge believer, after many of those instances, in moving things 'real life' as soon as it feels clear to me that I'm interested enough for at least a coffee, and let those big initial sparks happen live, or not at all. It's just economics, to me. If I spend a bunch of minutes or even hours getting to know someone online before we've ever met once, and then on first sight I'm like, "OH. my. GOD. what was I thinking? He looked soooo much better in his photos!!!!" and I see his face light up like a Christmas tree and gushing immediately that, "Wow, you look so much better than in your photos." and me feeling like the biggest meanie ever, well...... I'm over that. It's minutes and hours (and more, emotional buildup/mental energy) spend on that guy that was pretty wasted, all for nothing. I now am very skeptical of anything that seems too great to be real. It usually isn't. Not to be overly cynical, but it's just my experience, so I like to arrange a low-stakes initial meeting-over-tea-of-coffee ASAP if there is much mutual interest at all.

Holly, great news. Keep us posted about it.
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I really feel this way when I am dating, for me he needs to put in the effort and court me! That said, I have accepted that I am pretty "high maintenance" so if they can't start off right then it's only downhill from there for us.....
You gorgeous supermodel types are always high maintenance.


So, did you get yourself psyched up enough to send out some feelers in the realm of online dating? :

Holly, have you bothered yet? : www.plentyoffish.com is large and free.
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Butterflymom,

Planning to bother sometime this next weekend. Will be visiting my friend who found a great guy online.

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Hiya'll. I had a great date with Smart & Sporty. We went out for drinks and then went to his office and met up with a partner in his company plus his friend and the four of us played poker until late in the night. It was really fun. I enjoyed S&S's company, and he seemed so proud to be able to put his arm around me, etc. He is really so danged smart, and a sweet sweet gentleman to me. We ended up dancing there in the 'living room' part of his company's office space. We slept there, as well. He escorted me home in the morning via taxi and then sent me a zillion text messages and called me today and wants to see me as soon as possible, maybe tomorrow if I'm willing.

Clark Kent texted a few times over the weekend and wants to see me or so he says..... : Didnt' set a specific time.
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Am I a fool?
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Am I a fool?!


And no, you're not a fool. There are pros and cons to being single just like there are pros and cons to being partnered. It's just life. It's a tradeoff. I guess the big prize is when you meet someone that makes you feel only lucky that you aren't available for anyone else. But then again, what do I know?

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When I was with ex I often felt like I was missing out on a whole lot.
Then when I was able to date again I felt like - wow - this is FUN - but while it was fun it was also about pleasent but overall pretty pointless sex. I used to enjoy that when I was in my early twenties but now at early thirties - when I became single and had some time to myself I went outthere - and it just wasnt as much fun as I remembered. The heartache of getting attached to someone and then have it not work out however was even more painful than I remembered. So - I felt very lucky to meet the love of my life on my second date. I have no idea how that could happen - luck I guess. But right now I dont feel any interest in dating at all. For the first time in my entire life I can actually imagine a lifetime with one particular person. I feel like I have met the one man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I cant know for sure if this feeling is going to last, but right now I feel it pretty strongly.
I do however also believe it is a choice we make. We choose to look no further - or we choose to hope for something better. Its a fine balance and how likely you are to choose one over the other has to do with the person you are seeing as well as with you and where you are in your life and what you want from it.
I dont have any answers really.. I hope you find what you are looking for

ON a completely different note - I was fired today Felt like sharing. Its simply because our big custumer didnt renew their contract. Its not impossible that they will be making another contract with us and I will be reemployed but for now, I need to start looking for something else. Bummer

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ON a completely different note - I was fired today Felt like sharing. Its simply because our big custumer didnt renew their contract. Its not impossible that they will be making another contract with us and I will be reemployed but for now, I need to start looking for something else. Bummer
I'm really sorry Seie. I hope you find a new and great job soon!
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Seie!!

I got fired about a month ago for reasons the employer didn't share with me. Take some time for yourself, do something you REALLY want to do. It'll take some time for you to mourn the loss.

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I'm somewhat attracted to him. I didn't think he was super cute, but he was cute enough and had a great personality. So I think I'm into him.

Woo hoo for getting my first date out of the way and having it be a good time!
Yoginisarah - Sounds like a great first date and I see nothing wrong with leaving him wanting more than you gave him on a first date! It is so hard to find a mans man that is into a more yogic lifestyle (especially in my culture).... just let it unfold and enjoy each moment. Good luck on your second first date with single dad hope it is also a good experience.

Congrats on the first date it was a real liberating experience for me!

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back to keeping an eye out for the right kind of guy...
This happens and while I know it is not always what we want I think it is much better than settling for someone we know is not meant for us.

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I just pulled my online profile. I'm feeling pretty blah, trying to re-evaluate wth I'm doing. I have a few guys in the email exchange stage still, may or may not meet them, depending where I'm at when I come out of this funk.
I think it is smart to take a break away from the online world (it can really consume your time) and focus on real life, on you, on passions you care for and then go back if you choose. So who are the guys still being considered....

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I should tell him when I'd like another 'lesson', it would be his pleasure to give one to me.

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So what does this all mean?
I now finally have my own cellphone number...and perhaps can give it to him. I have his.
I'm really going to take things slow...maybe move first.
I just think it was nice of him to think of me!!

On a side note, what was bothering me the day we went surfing was all the crap I've had to deal with with my ex these past stressful weeks. Feelings of guilt towards my kids, because I'm the one who ended it all several months ago with my ex. Plus I have a boring job.

Do I need to mention that all to him??
I would not mention all of that to him, but you should think why was all of that on your mind when you were out with him.... Are you just not that into him?

I don't think you need to go slower with SCG but he needs to ask for your phone number already! Maybe say you would love to going surfing again sometime but would also be open to going out to dinner or just for a long walk.... and for him to call you to let you know when he is free THEN don't give your number, make him ask you for it in his email response.

Yes I am evil like that!

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By the way, SCG is NOT my only contender at the moment...dd #1 has quite a few good friends at her school whose parents are single parents, and we've started to get to know each other.


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Hiya'll. I had a great date with Smart & Sporty. We went out for drinks and then went to his office and met up with a partner in his company plus his friend and the four of us played poker until late in the night. It was really fun. I enjoyed S&S's company, and he seemed so proud to be able to put his arm around me, etc. He is really so danged smart, and a sweet sweet gentleman to me. We ended up dancing there in the 'living room' part of his company's office space. We slept there, as well. He escorted me home in the morning via taxi and then sent me a zillion text messages and called me today and wants to see me as soon as possible, maybe tomorrow if I'm willing.

Clark Kent texted a few times over the weekend and wants to see me or so he says..... : Didnt' set a specific time.
Okay so S&S is the first guy I am really liking who loves you as much as I do! That sounds like such a sweet date. Why were you at his office all night..... not at him place or yours was that a little odd? Still sounds really sweet! Can we keep him around for a little while....

Clark Kent is good looking but I need to hear a bit more about him once you two get together in person!

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LoveOhm...

Ended up responding to SCG's e-mail that I had just had a phone call with my ex that bothered me.
My problem is that I am totally into him, but don't really know if he is totally into me. No matter, because I like talking to him and whatever happens I know we'll at least be friends. Maybe he hasn't asked for my phone number because I told him a few days ago that I didn't have one (true).
Sent out a group e-mail today with my new cell phone....included him. He can do what he wants with it. Now the ball is in his court.

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You gorgeous supermodel types are always high maintenance.


So, did you get yourself psyched up enough to send out some feelers in the realm of online dating? :
Nope I am not into contacting men actually there are just too many online. Everytime I even try I start looking at the emails in my inbox at POF I start to feel overwealmed. Maybe at a different time.

StableGuy was so sweet last Friday he asked to come over after dd was asleep one evening and I was just honest with him and told him I am staying in my parents guest house and that I don't feel comfortable having company here. (Really I did not want him to think in any way my ex and I were still living together because he has thought when I am not in contact with him "maybe" my ex and I decided to work things out....) His response was that I (and of course dd) could move in with him! Which I thought was completely sweet of him but of course declined and said we need our own space but if he wanted to help me get a fab part-time job so I could afford to move I would love it! He responded saying he would keep his eyes and ears open for me and if I need something please don't hesitate to ask. Thought it was all very sweet but hello I did ask for something a fab part-time job.

2ndHusband and I have not seen eachother since our afternoon of dancing almost two weeks ago but we have been texting almost daily and he wants to go to dinner this week. His ego is still a little hurt because I gave my number to that actor when 2ndHusband and I were out at that party.

Went out with the super cute actor but he was not really my type. He was drinking mid-day which just seemed odd. Who drinks like that at noon? I made an excuse to cut the date early but he still wants to go on another date. His smile is to die for but that is about it!

That's my update I really feel like I need to move before I can date anyone more seriously or on a regular basis! Given my schedule and lack of help with dd having a person I am dating over after she is in bed seems to be the best way to spend quality time with them.

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Nope I am not into contacting men actually there are just too many online. Everytime I even try I start looking at the emails in my inbox at POF I start to feel overwealmed. Maybe at a different time. .
PULL YOUR PIC. Or put a horrible one up. Then YOU search the site with ridiculously harsh standards, which narrow the selection down to a very small group, and then choose only the ones who have smiles that melt your heart or eyes that pierce your soul, in their pics, and then email 5-10 of those types. You can narrow it down and make it smaller than it seems/feel at first. But to avoid that flooded inbox, just make sure you don't have an attractive pic up (in your case, best not to put any pic of all, or one that really could be anyone).



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Okay so S&S is the first guy I am really liking who loves you as much as I do! That sounds like such a sweet date. Why were you at his office all night..... not at him place or yours was that a little odd? Still sounds really sweet! Can we keep him around for a little while....

Clark Kent is good looking but I need to hear a bit more about him once you two get together in person! .
Well, I think he wanted me to go hang out at his office space because there's a killer lounge area in it with home theater and great sound system, humongous wraparound couch, and a kitchen full of all types of beverages for us to drink. Plus the place is right dead center in town, and he himself lives way beneath his means in a tiny studio apartment. Which he took me to tonight after dinner. We went to a japanese restaurant and enjoyed an amazing sushi dinner and then afterwards walked to his place. He is really starting to grow on me, looks wise. The last two times I've seen him I've been pleasantly surprised at first glance, like "who is this guy?! Way better looking than I remembered!" and he is loosening up and acting more confident around me rather than super shy and reserved like in the very beginning. We went to his place and sat on his balcony and enjoyed the weather and had a long talk over drinks about all kinds of things including European and American history during the Englightenment as well as during 20th century political turbulence and it moral issues including Finland's role in WWII. We also talked about how I helped a good friend of mine switch from a life as a private escort/call girl 8 years ago into living her dreams of working in art galleries (art is her passion) and becoming a NFL full-time mom, which is her life today. So a pretty wide myriad of discussions. Then he made a move and we kissed. The kissing is getting better. Not so monotonous. We lit candles and danced. Pretty great dancing, actually. And really great conversations when we were done dancing. His whole aura seems to light up these past couple of times, in my presence, and I like what I see reflected back at me through his smile and eyes. It's definitely evolving and he's definitely growing on me.

Clark Kent I had a date with a week and a half ago and he wants to take me to dinner tomorrow. He sent me a text today saying tomorrow would be good and he's sorry he's been busy lately but that he wants to emphasize that if we see each other, it's gotta be no strings attached, because he's not looking for anything 'serious.' : I hate that crap. Just like with Pretty Fisherman. I'm not looking for something serious unless things unfold remarkably, amazingly well, and I know that each guy I meet is unlikely to be that kind of rare/super-great fit. I don't walk into each potential thinking I'll simply force a relationship no matter what. I want to let things evolve and play out the way they're meant to, and fizzle if/when they're meant to as well, so why do men seem to wanna state from the get go that they have these relationship limitations. Don't they realize that if they happen to meet someone and fall in love they will feel differently about giving up the perks of being single and it's hard to put yourself into that mindset before it happens? Or do they mean something differently....do they mean, "I know I just met you but I can tell right now that I find you extremely attractive and good for as much No-Strings-Attached fun I can possibly squeeze out of you for awhile, but I know I could never fall in love with you, so please be happy with a physical-only relationship, ok??"
Is that the translation from man-ese to Venus-speak?

Then again who knows what Smart & Sporty is thinking about relationships. I haven't asked him if he's looking or open to something unfolding potentially in a more seriou direction and he hasn't said anything. I told him I wanted proper romance and traditional dating and courtship without sexpectations being the motivating factor and he agreed wholeheartedly that he's on board for that and the 5 times we have met has proven that he meant it. He is such a chivalrous gentleman and I believe he has a good heart and strong character. I have put it out there that I dont' want to have No-Strings-Attached types of cheap encounters but then again am not looking to rush full steam ahead into a co-habitating ultra-serious relationship either, so... I'd like to do a middle-ground where things do mean something, there are strings attached but it evolves and unfolds slowly, and develops in a natural time frame with no frantic haste, etc.... and he has nodded emphatically and his body language has said that he agrees but he hasn't actually said. Then again I tend to dominate the conversation because I'm an uber extrovert and he's not. He's slowly taking up more and more of his share of the conversation. I hope he really blossoms and blows me away with what he has to say by date 10 or 20. I know he's intelligent enough to come up with quite interesting things to say but he is still quite reserved, compared with me.

I'm feeling 'eh' about seeing Clark Kent tomorrow because of the NSA comment and that he hasn't exactly pursued me to bits. He seems lukewarm and if he's lukewarm after we've met (and kissed!) in real life, then why even bother? But then again I hate to throw away all that potential when we've only had two hours together so far and maybe he's just gotten lost in work and forgotten how awesome I am and if he spends a full evening with me he'll totally remember and his more focused, interested energy will revive and stay on for good. Or for awhile, anyways. I'm willing to give it one proper dinner date to see.

Pretty Fisherman has been quiet for 5-6 days. No big deal, we are not usually in daily contact.

KE and I are pals. It's nice.

Smoothie has vanished seemingly forever. Flower Boy had asked me to join him for 2-3 days in Italy next week but this seems crazy, and he hasn't called again to follow up with the invite, so I obviously won't be going.


I really want at least one decent contender to give S&S some competition.


sugarmoon, what's up? Socrates? Other guy with little spark but who made tons of money and was a great parenting partner to his ex? :
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Hey y'alls.

I'm glad to hear all your updates, and happy to welcome newcomers to our fun little corner of MDC. Just a reminder, you'll hear mentions of the facebook group (or fb) and please don't be shy about asking to join. It is a secret group, meaning it is totally private, only visible to the members, so we can talk freely, post pictures and be total UAV'ers if we want to (and we do, oh yes, we do!). Butterflymom and I are the mods, so PM either of us if you want an invite to join.

I'm still in a funk. I'm giving myself a break. This week is the one year anniversary of my marriage, and my life as I knew it, exploding. Today was exactly one year to the day that my xh slept with the woman he left me for, and in an irony to end all ironies, we had our final settlement conference for our divorce today. Tomorrow is the anniversary of the day he told me he wanted a divorce, and the day after that is our daughter's birthday. Yup, folks, that's right, last year, the day after finding out my dh had slept with someone else and intended to leave me for her, I got to throw a birthday party!

Ugh.

Socarates...I sent him an email that said "You know, you're hard to read. Let me know if you ever want to try the food at (restaurant where we met but only had drinks, cause the kitchen shut down before we ordered)". I haven't heard back so I'm thinking pretty much no. I'm okay with it. It was nice to meet someone who felt like there was a possibility but I really don't have the energy for it right now anyhow.

Localguy is still up for a hike/canoe ride when my schedule opens up a bit, and there are two other guys I've done some emailing with who may or may not pan out. But right now, I'm just needing a break.

I'm also really dwelling on Complications, I've been having crazy dreams about him even, and I just need to do that for awhile. It is more about how our friendship ended than anything to do with our dating/romantic involvement, but I still need to do whatever it is I need to do to move past it.

I'm feeling okay about not dating for a while, doing some things I need to do for myself, and taking some time.

I'll be here though, for sure, living vicariously!!

Butterfly, I'm still waiting for a new pic of S&S, in casual dress, on fb. Pretty please? He sounds nice. I'm glad he's growing on you.

Much love to all of you, and love for all of us, in the air!
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Can I just say how awesome I think this thread is??
I love reading about all of our adventures (the G rated versions anyways...) and exchanging advice.

So, tee hee...in spite of the fact that I'm moving out tomorrow, I went swimming tonight for a good hour. Mostly because I want my arms to be less flabby, but also because it's a sport that I really like and am pretty good.
ANYWAYS, I was in the fast lane (fast, medium, slow) with one other guy and we got to chatting.....then flat out flirting. Not bad looking, nice body, pretty good swimmer. So before I left he said, 'So I hope I'll see you back here on Friday....'. So if I'm not going out with SCG surfing or whatever I'll be swimming with this guy. I'll call him Smiley Fish.
GREAT for my self confidence...

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holly, quelle fantastic timing! i hope piles of good looking, kind men fall across your path in the coming months.

speaking of swimming, i intend to start again in september. six years ago i was a fantastic swimmer, but i haven't really been in the water since and i miss it. in order to swim i need a bathing suit. i'm going to get this: http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php...ng_id=26259068 and i get to pick the fabric from here: www.spandexworld.com
my question is: would you get black with white polka dots or a solid colour?
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A solid colour. Definitely.

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Yes, maybe there'll be tons of handsome guys falling all over me (ha ha.....probably all over 40) but I like SCG's sweetness, his eyes, and the fact that he is very reassuring. Hard to tell exactly how much I am in to him...but I could talk to him for hours. Conversation is not something that is difficult...for the most part I think I was totally nervous about surfing in very strong rapids...
but I told him that.

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hello, been a little while. just wanted to give you mamas an update.... not seeing the match.com guy anymore... he stopped calling me out of the blue...loser... sigh....


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