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i am getting a divorce. i have a soon to be 6 and 8 year old boys...beautiful sensitive creatures that are going to hurt so bad over this. my fear is that if i do not divorce now i will end up resenting them as well as my husband and life a miserable existence...there is no going back now, i have tried for the past two years...and the 6 before that to heal what can not be healed.
now, we have faced up to that. how do we tell our kids that we will never be together as a that family again? i do not want to say that mommy and daddy do not love each other because that is not true. i want to say mommy and daddy will be happier if we live in separate houses and we will only be a phone call away...with mommy during the week and daddy on the weekends, and for sports...sounds so matter of factual when in fact it is so hurtful.
i do not want to hurt my kids but i strongly believe that this short term hurt will be much less damaging than a lifetime of unhappiness for myself, their mother...help me. i am so struggling with this. my babies, i never ever want to hurt them and i am...
thank you so much. just knowing that i am doing the right thing...short term pain for long term gain...i think the part that hurts the most is that they will not have the 'dream' family...the nuclear picture perfect picket fence lie that i have been living for so long...the windows have finally broken...it is so reassuring to hear your supports and kind thoughts. i have always loved this mothering place. a place so close to my heart...thanks so much for the supportive words-thoughts that you three posted. i truly truly appreciate it. i just oredered the sandcastles book...<3