Well, ladies. I've been striking out big time. So, my squash partner, with whom a "relationship" never developed but with whom I've built/maintained a little friendship seems to be moving, as I suspected. He emailed me a listing of his new apartment in the other city. He called me and then I called him, but both @ bad times when we couldn't really talk yesterday and today. I'm a bit disappointed (he's the only person I've gotten close to dating who has seemed kind, responsible, intelligent, etc. - most of the things I want), but am also REALLY glad he was the first date I went out on right out of the divorce gate. It was like a really nice set of training wheels
Then...two weeks ago I went out for a drink w/a lawyer (let's call him litigator) I met on okcupid. I came away thinking he was intelligent and could hold an ok conversation but with a vague sense that...well....I wasn't sure. Was he too stuffy? Too old for me? But I figured I'd give it another go. Oh, good grief. We went on a second date and it was AWFUL. He's one of the most arrogant obnoxious people I've ever met. It was unbelievable. I was seriously wondering how I could escape. If the bathroom had a window I would have climbed out. I finally faked a sinus headache & insisted he take me home.
Then, there's lawyer #2 (I'll call him trial lawyer). A few weeks ago, we talked on the phone after back & forth on match. It was a remarkably "easy" conversation if that makes sense. We made tentative plans for a Sunday coffee date. He never followed up to confirm, and when I checked on match, his profile was gone or hidden. Whatever. Then, a few days after our coffee that didn't happen, I get a text saying "When R we going out?" After some back & forth, we settle on tonight. On Monday (today's Sat), I text him asking for suggestions of where to go.
I don't hear back from him until about 1 pm today when I get a match email. He suggests meeting at a nice restaurant in town @ 7:15.
I say that sounds great.
He replies, "Ok, 7 o'clock. And I just want you to know that the photos on match are from 2007 before I had a life threatening illness the treatment for which left me hairless. I just wanted to be upfront."
Me: "Ok, well, it's just hair! Just to confirm - 7, right (since it had changed from 7:15)?"
Him: "The bar at restaurant XXX is going to be packed on Sat night. Let's just meet cas at Starbucks & if we want we can then head over to restaurant YYYY (restaurant YYY is much more of a bar & less nice than the original suggestion)."
Then I call him, he doesn't pick up so I leave a vmail: "Hi, it's Rosehip. I wanted to clarify plans. Do you want to meet up at restaurant YY @ 7? Let me know." (I honestly had NO interest in going to Starbucks @ 7 on a Sat night, esp after I'd agreed to go to a nice place. I'm sure he was screening his calls & didn't pick up.)
He leaves me a message back: "Sure, I can meet you at restaurant YYY. Or we could go to Starbucks, if you'd rather. Just text me to confirm."
I text: "7 o'clock @ restaurant YYY. See you there."
@ about 5:30 pm, him: "I'm running late. I'll meet you @ 7:20, ok?"
Me (TOTALLY fed up at this point): "Tonight sounds a bit too hectic. Let's maybe do this some other time."
Him: "C U @ 7."
Me: "Not tonight. Too many changes of plans at this point."
Him (he calls leaves a vmail): "I'm on my way, I'll see you @ YYY @ 7."
then texts: "U R not going to stand me up. It will be good to meet you. Meet me at the restaurant @ 7. You can end it early if it's not there."
OMG! I just blocked him on match, and stopped answering calls/texts. I just have a real sense that he's an awful, arrogant, smarmy jerk who was trying to see how far he could get me to kowtow to his whims, and pull the old bait & switch. All this drama before even a single date!
Ladies, I'm not having any luck here.